Relationships have become disposable. A couple of generations ago you would never have heard of marriages ending every day. Couples falling out of love as easy as changing the coffee house they order from.
A couple of generations ago there was an understanding. It did not mean everyone was happy but it did mean they tried.
We are all searching for our twin souls and as being someone who married mine I can understand why, but there is still a lot in the fine print you have not read yet about the perfect relationship!
It doesn’t matter if you are with a for now or a forever, you still have to work at it. Even I believed a twin soul was a guarantee of sorts, a no brainer we will understand each other forever kind of thing.
Relationships no matter how good they are end up destroyed every day. One minute the love is flowing and the next hate and anger take over.
A relationship can only work if there is constant communication, something so easily taken for granted and pushed to the side of even the best relationships. Pushed aside because life just gets to busy.
Our baggage comes with us whether we want it to or not, but surprisingly enough I don’t think that is what destroys the forever after.
The biggest mistake a couple who love each other makes is taking life’s stress’s out on each other. There is always something going on. Bills needing to be paid, kids trauma’s and drama’s. Your beloved pet getting sick or maybe even your parents. No matter what the story these take a toll on us and they take an even bigger toll on our marriages.
Those quick flash angers, the attitude you share with the one you love when you are in a bad mood. It adds up and before we know it even the best get broken. We think our relationships can handle anything because we are in love and when you love someone that should be enough right? It isn’t.
Life is going to get in your way whether you are in love or not. Those life lessons and strains are going to happen any way. Using our spouse as a batting cage emotionally to release life’s frustrations or make them understand just makes it worse.
For the most part we take things out on each other without even realizing and that is when it is the scariest. You have to understand that there is a reason you love that person, or at least a reason you did. Even the things that made you fall in love start to become the reasons you are annoyed when you allow life to take precedence in your love life.
Your partner, your forever after is supposed to be your best friend, your lover, your confidant and the one person you can tell everything too. We are not supposed to in a heated moment use it against each other. Take out all of our frustrations and just believe it will all work out.
Relationships don’t work anymore because we do not think about the other person. We think about ourselves. We think about what we need not what they need, about what we feel not what they feel. Relationships fail because there is no “I” in “we”.
Even the strongest of bonds can deteriorate when pushed to their limits. Try to remember the words you use because they can never be taken back. Try to remember the blame you throw because it can never be un done.
When and if it gets too late, all the things that got in the way of this relationship, all the reasons your love had to take a back seat will suffer too.
The kids you put before your partner they will suffer for the rest of their lives because you thought of them first. They will question relationships and will come from a broken home all because their immediate not life altering needs came first.
That money you needed to make instead of loving your partner, it will be split and often given to the lawyers, for all your hard work, when all you had to do was take a day off and play hooky with the one you love. Never go to bed angry and talk even when you were exhausted. Even when you didn’t want to talk.
Living in a box with the one you love is way better then living in a mansion losing the one you have loved since the moment you met them. Remember that when you trying to get ahead and allowing the stress to take its toll on your relationship.
Remember that as much as everything happens for a reason sometimes the reason is you have not learnt. Life is too short to take it out on the one you love. I know this because I am married too. Love your life, Love your partner. Love yourself.
