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ASK KJ: Even your forever love can be broken.

2011-08-23T19:33:00.000-07:00

ASK KJ: Even your forever love can be broken.: Relationships have become disposable. A couple of generations ago you would never have heard of marriages ending every day. Couples falling...

Even your forever love can be broken.

2011-08-23T19:32:00.000-07:00

Relationships have become disposable. A couple of generations ago you would never have heard of marriages ending every day. Couples falling out of love as easy as changing the coffee house they order from.

A couple of generations ago there was an understanding. It did not mean everyone was happy but it did mean they tried.

We are all searching for our twin souls and as being someone who married mine I can understand why, but there is still a lot in the fine print you have not read yet about the perfect relationship!

It doesn’t matter if you are with a for now or a forever, you still have to work at it. Even I believed a twin soul was a guarantee of sorts, a no brainer we will understand each other forever kind of thing.

Relationships no matter how good they are end up destroyed every day. One minute the love is flowing and the next hate and anger take over.

A relationship can only work if there is constant communication, something so easily taken for granted and pushed to the side of even the best relationships. Pushed aside because life just gets to busy.

Our baggage comes with us whether we want it to or not, but surprisingly enough I don’t think that is what destroys the forever after.

The biggest mistake a couple who love each other makes is taking life’s stress’s out on each other. There is always something going on. Bills needing to be paid, kids trauma’s and drama’s. Your beloved pet getting sick or maybe even your parents. No matter what the story these take a toll on us and they take an even bigger toll on our marriages.

Those quick flash angers, the attitude you share with the one you love when you are in a bad mood. It adds up and before we know it even the best get broken. We think our relationships can handle anything because we are in love and when you love someone that should be enough right? It isn’t.

Life is going to get in your way whether you are in love or not. Those life lessons and strains are going to happen any way. Using our spouse as a batting cage emotionally to release life’s frustrations or make them understand just makes it worse.

For the most part we take things out on each other without even realizing and that is when it is the scariest. You have to understand that there is a reason you love that person, or at least a reason you did. Even the things that made you fall in love start to become the reasons you are annoyed when you allow life to take precedence in your love life.

Your partner, your forever after is supposed to be your best friend, your lover, your confidant and the one person you can tell everything too. We are not supposed to in a heated moment use it against each other. Take out all of our frustrations and just believe it will all work out.

Relationships don’t work anymore because we do not think about the other person. We think about ourselves. We think about what we need not what they need, about what we feel not what they feel. Relationships fail because there is no “I” in “we”.

Even the strongest of bonds can deteriorate when pushed to their limits. Try to remember the words you use because they can never be taken back. Try to remember the blame you throw because it can never be un done.

When and if it gets too late, all the things that got in the way of this relationship, all the reasons your love had to take a back seat will suffer too.

The kids you put before your partner they will suffer for the rest of their lives because you thought of them first. They will question relationships and will come from a broken home all because their immediate not life altering needs came first.

That money you needed to make instead of loving your partner, it will be split and often given to the lawyers, for all your hard work, when all you had to do was take a day off and play hooky with the one you love. Never go to bed angry and talk even when you were exhausted. Even when you didn’t want to talk.

Living in a box with the one you love is way better then living in a mansion losing the one you have loved since the moment you met them. Remember that when you trying to get ahead and allowing the stress to take its toll on your relationship.

Remember that as much as everything happens for a reason sometimes the reason is you have not learnt. Life is too short to take it out on the one you love. I know this because I am married too. Love your life, Love your partner. Love yourself.

ASK KJ: Life can truly be amazing if you allow it....Read ...

2011-07-21T11:00:00.000-07:00

ASK KJ: Life can truly be amazing if you allow it....Read ...: "Life truly can be amazing if we allow it to be. I have said that more times then even I care to remember but for the most part 8 out of 10 ..."

ASK KJ: Life can truly be amazing if you allow it....Read ...

2011-07-20T12:29:00.001-07:00

Life can truly be amazing if you allow it....Read this, it will help!!

2011-07-20T12:29:00.000-07:00

Life truly can be amazing if we allow it to be. I have said that more times then even I care to remember but for the most part 8 out of 10 people who read it or hear it, don’t believe it. So I am going to take a moment and explain it just a little further.

I remember very clearly celebrating my 30^th birthday. Not a day I like to remember to be honest. It was probably the worst day of my life. I was leaving the excuse of being in my twenties to not have my shit together and heading to my thirties where there was no more excuses. I was depressed, unhappy, still felt like an abused wife even though I had been out of the abuse for a few years. I was miserable. Understand that it was heightened because it was my birthday but at the end of the line this was how I felt all the time. This is how many of us feel all the time. Miserable, like nothing is going our way and we can’t have what we want.

Brian and I had been together intimately for 4 months and for the most part were doing fine. Great sex, not great communication, and he seemed to have two cute kids. He had started to care about me so much that he tried to get someone who meant the world to me, but I had lost because of my irresponsibility and childish actions over the previous years , to come to the party. Lance didn’t come but the thought was there, without a doubt.

The night of my birthday I was feeling fat, worthless and all around miserable. Within a couple of hours even Brian was second guessing me. It is important to truly believe and understand at this point that you are what you think you are, and your life is what you think it is. You create your outcomes whether you like it or not.

Think of the amount of times you have thought about someone you do not want to talk too and poof the phone rings or you run into them. How about the amount of times you have thought or worried about a bill and the next day it comes in. Sometimes even to the point of being a final notice. Coincidence? All of the synchronicities in the world are just perfect timing? I don’t think so.

We manifest it. Bring it into our reality. Yes it is true that on occasion we can think of something as a pre warning or an intuitive thought but even your intuition is manifestation.

That night with me feeling fat and useless even Brian who obviously had some feelings for me took me outside to tell me he didn’t think this would work because he was not attracted to me. I was too big for his liking. Before we want to strike Brian down with lightning, I created this. I even knew it as he was saying it and in 2 minutes I had it turned around. Thank god I know and understand the law of attraction because I cannot imagine spending the last ten years without this man.

Why did my life suck ten years ago? Because I let it. Simple really. No matter what I was doing in my life. Getting up, working, raising my kids, working, using Brian as my toy, working….it was not what I was supposed to be working on., There was no real effort. Lots of drama, lots of poor me, but no real effort. I allowed my self to manifest a life I didn’t want. I allowed my excuses to rule me.

After that night I realized what I was doing and it all changed. That is all it really takes. Realizing what you are doing and doing something to change it. Even when you don’t know what to do. I concentrated on what I did love in my life. I concentrated on Brian and my kids and started working on the rest. When clients walked in my door they got more attention. More of me. When my friends were in need they got my undivided attention. I started treating everything how I would want to it to be for me. Even my kids got a break from crazy lady to lets sit and talk about it.

Within three months Brian and I were living together and his two kids had moved with us. They became my two kids. Within 6 months we had bought our first home, a new car and my business had doubled. And now today.

Within ten years my life went from miserable to FREAKING AMAZING!

I am married to my twin soul, had a wedding to die for. We have 4 of our own children that complete me. Ashley, Eddie, Ashley and Kailyn. We adopted a boy that moves me in a way most could never understand. My Dylan. We have taken in our oldest daughters best friend who is without question on of our children. Brian’s Jennifer. We have three unbelievable in law children. Matt: you are so good for Jenn. We love you…..Amanda: You are mine what more can I say. I adore you. Corey: you make our family so much more complete. There is not enough thank you’s for bringing our daughter home.

We have two grandbabies that are beyond our expectations. One was even given my middle name and with the grace of god sleeps at Grandma’s all the time. We own a beautiful home with a pool in the back, pool table in the living room, every guitar hero you could think of and many of our children. We drive gorgeous vehicles and every day get to wake up doing what we love. We have a TV show that is going national. People we work with that inspire us. I have a Producer and Camera man that defy the law of talent. They are beyond gifted in their field. Last but not least, I have people all over the world that not only know my name, but respect me and listen when I try to help them.

So today on my 40^th birthday I have only a few things to say. Wake up every day knowing you are in control of the life you have, over how it will be and what you can do. Never forget to thank god, the Universe or Flying Fairies if that is what you want to call it, for everything you have and can have because it is all gifts.

The law of attraction and manifestation is the only law you need to ever really understand and if you do not know what to do with your life, go see someone like me to figure it out. And last but not least. I am thrilled to be 40 because these last ten years have been beyond perfect. The next ten are going to be even better and I love manifesting my future. You will too.

No matter where you are in your life right now, no matter how overwhelming it all seems. Your Freaking Amazing is only thought patterns away.

ASK KJ: Free yourself

2011-06-27T12:09:00.000-07:00

ASK KJ: Free yourself: "The first thing we should register about being a human is we can guarantee to ourselves that we make mistakes. Some of our mistakes are sm..."

Free yourself

2011-06-27T12:08:00.000-07:00

The first thing we should register about being a human is we can guarantee to ourselves that we make mistakes.

Some of our mistakes are small like wearing white after labour day, but for the most part they are usually, at the time that we make them earth shattering. Things will never be the same kind of mistakes.

We create these vicious cycles of beating ourselves up and feeling like we are not good enough. Then because of our constant rant of not being good enough we fear admitting our mistakes to ourselves because we think that admitting our flaws means we are less worthy.

Here is the thing we don’t realize but should. A cycle is doing things over and over. Mistakes are lessons where the intention is that we learn and become stronger in our lives. It is only a mistake when we allow it to become a cycle by not facing it.

Admitting to ourselves and accepting our flaws and our struggles is actually a strength builder. It will build your self worth.

There is not a person anywhere that does not screw up on occasion. No I need to fix that. There is not one person that does not screw up all the time. It makes us who we are. It gives us the life we are living and if we can pull our heads out of our asses once in awhile it can also improve the life we are already creating.

Being accountable to ourselves means understanding ourselves completely. It means we can accept ourselves freely and it also allows us the ability to forgive ourselves and possibly those around us.

Free yourself by being honest. Look in the mirror and tell yourself a true story.

Give yourself some much needed credit because as much as you make mistakes. You also fix and or survive them and we both know that takes a lot of talent.

Love your life, because it is yours. Because no matter what you want or need, you have the ability to do it.

If there is a chance you don't know what mistakes your making don't beat yourself up, think of seeing someone like me who can help. Love Your Life....

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ASK KJ: Relationship therapy every man wants his woman to ...

2011-06-07T13:44:00.000-07:00

ASK KJ: Relationship therapy every man wants his woman to ...: "This is intended to be one of those. OMG this is so true it is funny blogs. There is swearing and sexual content. If you think you will tak..."

Relationship therapy every man wants his woman to know! (sexually graphic) you are warned.No prudes allowed!

2011-06-07T13:41:00.000-07:00

This is intended to be one of those. OMG this is so true it is funny blogs. There is swearing and sexual content. If you think you will take it personal, don’t read!

Message to the men, if your woman listens to this blog, you will be very happy indeed. So get her to read it.

Ladies, first I need to start out with we are never wrong!

At first any man reading this thinks to himself. "Oh, hell no my wife is not reading this crap." Trust me guys you will be happy.

I am often asked to "help out" in relationship issues, and as you can imagine twenty years as a Clairvoyant has taught me a thing or two about marriage, relationships and how things work.

What I have not learnt in the field, my lovely husband and twin soul has been more than happy to teach me. Usually he is on the losing end, but has taught me never the less.

The biggest issue in relationships is COMMUNICATION, we have heard it a million times, but we have not necessarily understood the huge difference between how men communicate and show love and how women do.

In arguments typically the woman is being irrational. (See guys told you this would be ok.)

We know women need attention, and men need to be needed, blah blah blah.

We know women are emotional and men logical, blah blah blah, but there is reasons why there are sayings out there like ,and at no point does this show how I feel about women or men, just for the record. GRIN.

"Bitches be crazy" or "Time of the month Hon?" or how about "Trying to get your bitch on dear?"

Don't get me wrong, men can be jerks, assholes, cold, without feeling, think of only themselves. etc but unless you are in a relationship with a selfish man, which does happen. A man who cares about nothing, but himself,this blog won't help you but I know great lawyers.

A "normal" guy turns into the jerk because they have closed off their hearing. They don't want to listen anymore!

Men are simple creatures they hear it once and whether they choose to agree or not they have a get it so get over it theory. Where as we women need to be heard!

What type of acknowledgment do we require you ask? That you listen closely and tell us we are right. Basically what I am saying is that on occasion we need the impossible.

When things do not work out this way guess what happens? Be nice guys! Yes, we go a smidgen crazy and the fight begins.

Ladies you may not know this, and I hate to be the barer of bad news here but we are so caught up on being safe and secure that we need control, we need to know everything and we for the most part do not trust easily! Also important to know you come by it honestly because your moms are the same way.

Now don't misunderstand me and get your huff on, obviously there is so much more at stake, after all we have certain personalities that change somewhat how we react but this usually equates to what we fight about not necessarily how we ladies fight.

We don't fight fair! We are right, they are wrong, and eventually someone has to cave or it will become a knock down drag out bitch on wheels fight.

It is true there are times when a fight is required but for the most part, fights are about needing to be right and wanting things done the way we believe they should be.

Once we have exhausted all ability to get the guy to see things our way, we calm down and discover that there is a possibility we might have been unfair, or wrong. In which case the problem arises that if we admit we were wrong, the guy will use it against us at a later date. So that is not an option!

What does this mean? Time for a covert operation ladies.

Recap. Ladies are controlling and men don't listen.

Girls, there is simple solutions to ensure you do not have to admit defeat, not only that you will leave him believing he has chosen a goddess to spend his life with.

Guys, you are so welcome.

Here is three options for how to not admit you are wrong but keep your man happy and sometimes even get him to apologize to you even though he wasn’t wrong.

1) Find out exactly when he going to be home....make sure the kids are either in bed or gone and be standing by the front door NAKED with HIGH HEELS or in a SEXY NEXT TO NOTHING NUMBER. and repeat after me.

“oh my god baby I need you right here right now!”

You are in a relationship and your best communication is sexual. It is the truth. You need to be loved, let them show you they love you. You need to be the most important thing, let them show you that you are.

Men are simple and they show their emotions through their body. The bonus here is they will be so turned on they won't give a shit who started what. You will get amazing mind blowing sex and they will decide you are FUCKING PERFECT!

2) As they walk through the door, drop to your knees and blow their brains.

LOL I am killing myself laughing as I am writing picturing the look on people’s faces as you read me telling you to give your spouse HEAD! In all fairness, it is an amazing way to catch your mans attention.

Not to mention. He will believe he has won the lottery. This option will give you at least a week of getting what you want when you want it and should be used even when not fighting for effective getting what I want manoeuvring

Don’t you love a little it is all about me time? I do.

(I am a clairvoyant and have been a sex therapist to more than one couple.)

3) Tell them you were wrong and you are so sorry and will never do it again. This one sucks and will leave you open to him bitching you out for a change. Telling you he can’t take this crap anymore and if it continues he may not want to be in this relationship anymore.

It will be his turn to make you pay.

SEE WHY I HAVE given you 1 and 2 as your options?????

Here is the facts. You will get a lot further with your man if you LOVE HIM. The best making up is make up sex. After the sex he will tell you how much he loves you and did not mean to hurt you because ladies he does love you. He puts up with your crazy often, remember that.

If he knows you will be happy and he will get lucky he will do anything he can for you because he loves you and intimacy is how he shows it!

If you want him to hear you, to really listen, don't do it after a day at work with kids running around or a game or movie being watched. Make love in the afternoon or way before bed and after curl up and talk! He will listen.

Now last but not least, just some tips to keep you and your man HAPPY. Life together is about quality not quantity and we often forget that while making money, raising children, keeping everyone happy that we miss out on or put our lovers, best friends and spouses on the back burner.

Life is about the Journey not the destination:

Now tips to keep your man happy!

1 Book a hotel room close to his work, call him with a code to give the front desk on his lunch hour. When he walks into the room be naked or in slinky on the bed with fruit beside you. Best lunch you will have ever had!

2 Tell him your fantasies, and let him make them reality for you.

3 Give both of you each a day off from life.

One day where he isn’t a husband or a dad, no cheating or anything just 24 hours to do whatever he wants.

Sleep in walk around in underwear, play in his garage or games for 24 hours.. His day and request and do the same for you. Just not the same day.

4 Leave suggestive/loving notes for him to find.

Fill both of your needs here. Eg: Baby, I love you so much I can hardly wait to get you back in bed. P.S. I am not wearing any panties today and you need to take out the garbage. See you when you get home.

5 Send a sex text while at work. (get creative, even send a naked pic, he won’t let anyone else see it. THIS IS IMPORTANT SO READ CLOSELY. DO NOT SAY I DON'T LIKE MY BODY SO I CAN'T...REMEMBER HE IS THE ONE LOOKING AT YOU NOT YOU. BE FAIR TO HIM. STOP TELLING HIM HE SHOULDN'T BE ATTRACTED.

6 Give him a day where you will do anything he wants you to do with him and the same for you.

7 Sex slave days!

8 Buy a wig and be a different person for one night.

(My favourite thing is perfect stranger, use your imagination to figure it out)

9 Order pizza, buy some beer and eat and drink in bed.

10 No kids? Naked Day! The whole day together naked!

11 Dinner and a movie… Get home both jump in pj’s order Chinese and curl up legs entwined watching a movie he wants to watch. Then another night make it a chic flick.

Make your moments even if they are few and far between count.

Go back to the first place you ever dated and instead of telling him how he makes you feel, park somewhere and show him.

Be young again, not always about the kids, and the bills and the job. Sometimes it just needs to be about a man and a woman. Make your relationship count.

If you aren’t married and you try these tricks, trust me the ring is going to be gorgeous and if you are married and you do this, we will worship you and make all your friends jealous.

Great sex, good communication and love is the key to a fantastic marriage.

On a serious note, if you are struggling in your marriage a clairvoyant can help. Bring me your problem and we will fix it.

ASK KJ: The Mistress always gets the shaft. Story time wit...

2011-06-02T21:53:00.001-07:00

ASK KJ: The Mistress always gets the shaft. Story time wit...: "And I mean that in every possible way! LMAO The things I learn from clients right? After 20 years of doing readings and being held in the..."

The Mistress always gets the shaft. Story time with KJ

2011-06-02T21:53:00.000-07:00

And I mean that in every possible way! LMAO

The things I learn from clients right? After 20 years of doing readings and being held in the strictest of confidentiality one sits back and registers that I have seen it all.

I have more than once been approached by every situation one could possibly and for the most part not possibly imagine could take place in the realm of real and off the wall life choices.

I have dealt with fetishes, and could write a book. Relationships of every kind imaginable and could write about 20 books on how they fail alone. I have worked with insest, polygamy, multiple partners, swingers, cross dressing, hidden fantasies, beastiality, (No I am not kidding) single, desperate, arranged marriage, bought brides, every culture there is, in laws from hell, I have even dealt with a situation where a couple had no idea that they were adopted out siblings. Yes I am so telling the truth here. This is only a tip of the ice burg in what I have dealt with and I have only given a smidgen of an idea based on our personal lives alone.

The stories I will bit by bit share...But for now this is my rant.

It floors me professionally and personally that the Mistress always gets the shaft. Don't misunderstand me for a second, I have no desire to have to deal with one as my husband would be a very unhappy man in deed, but in my professorial life I have to tell you I have not come across one woman who has ended up as the mistress who didn't try not to be. It is always her fault. "You destroyed a marriage. How could you? Who do you think you are? He was taken. You are a whore. It is all her fault." You are kidding me right?

I am just going to be a bit of a non conformist here when I say....HE MADE THE CHOICE! the cheater is the married one my lovelies. The louse is the one with the family. The snake is the one who cannot get our of their marriage before bringing another partner into it. Yet in my career I have seen too many times they are forgiven. Oh I understand mortgages and children and all that. I have those too. I even completely understand that no one wants their lives to change and I give the one forgiving the credit I really do you are better women than me that is for sure.

But here are the facts. The Mistress is not responsible for the family, the break up, the hurt. She is suffering too, trust me. I have watched one to many amazing women fall to pieces because she ended up the other woman somehow.

Think for a second, and before anyone says to me what about the guys that get cheated on, I have a whole other blog I will post about that. But think for just a moment.

How many times have you gotten into a relationship and believed everything you were told? Especially about your guys ex? Everything about his past and without ever speaking to the other party from the past you see her as a bitch! A skank who messed with the man you now love! Never registering in your head there is always three sides your theirs and the reality.

Men are always so honest right? Come on now, you know what I am saying. They never lie, never talk to other women, never tell you how amazing you look when in reality they are thinking your ass should have a wide load sign attached. "Honey, does this outfit make me look fat?...No love, you are just as hot as when I married you, even after 4 kids and the chocolate of the day club. Trust me you look amazing in neon green."

Now think for a moment how many times have you gotten sucked in by someone you didn't think you would be attracted too, or done things you never thought you would do for a man because he convinced you too. Now do not misunderstand...I have to say this before my husband and my best friend lynch me for being on a hating man tyrant. I love men. I just accept they are the weaker species. (Grin) kidding.. How many times have you fallen for what you have been told. Made decisions against your better judgement. Had love lead you down the wrong path??

I can say with complete honesty that every mistress I have ever met, every other woman because I hate the word mistress has needed love and the men have given it. I am not going to presume to say that there is not conniving women out there. Nor am I telling you that you don't need to watch that new female assistant with the fake boobs who just got hired. But the manipulative woman will at the end get theirs. Because the ones that end up getting your man, will be stuck with him and you and I know that is not always the best thing. Sometimes the other woman even does you a favor. However that is a rare bread believe it or not..Try remember once a cheater always a cheater.

Most of the time, the other woman are friends of ours. They are regular loving girls who gets sucked into the lies and mis beliefs that have been given because they have no self worth. They are not the reason nor are they the blame, they are sitting at home crying their eyes out, wishing they could find a way to stop seeing him. There are some that even leave the Province yet can't get far enough away. The other woman for the most part is a victim just like the wife.

This does not mean all men cheat, nor does it mean all women are saints. It means that we need to learn to understand the situations before we cast the rock throwing. There is always reasons for why things happen, Mistresses included. So for those of you that are my clients. I understand, and you have nothing to feel ashamed for. You are not making their choices. Stand tall and proud and do what you can to get out of this unhealthy relationship, because you deserve to have a man all to yourself too and if you met him while he was still with someone else, trust me no matter what the Universe says. You deserve better.

Shocking truth it is not always the womans fault.

KJ

ASK KJ: Get bored easily? This is not a character flaw...I...

2011-05-23T12:17:00.000-07:00

ASK KJ: Get bored easily? This is not a character flaw...I...: "Growing up all I ever heard was 'Do you finish anything you start?' Not to mention all of the times I would get in trouble for being bored....."

Get bored easily? This is not a character flaw...It is a character draw!

2011-05-23T12:16:00.000-07:00

Growing up all I ever heard was "Do you finish anything you start?" Not to mention all of the times I would get in trouble for being bored....When I left home, I went through job after job and it was not because I couldn't keep them.

I get bored. Simple really. I need things to amuse me and if I do something for too long I feel like I am going to scream. I cannot lie it can be a pain in the ass when I want to make one of my kids a afghan or I want to finish a painting for the living room, but the rest of the time it gives me a chance to try all kinds of new things.

We are told getting bored is a negative thing but the truth is it is really more freeing than the restrictions people place on themselves because they think they have too.

The wealthiest people in the world will tell you that they get bored easily. It means we are not inclined to settle. It means we feel the need to try new things. It means we find our security and stability inside of ourselves instead of seeking it out in a job, or a relationship.

It means when we are not happy we change things. It means we get to try all kinds of different things in our lifetime.

It means freedom of choice. Of course it also means feeling of failure if you continue to believe their is something wrong with you because you get bored.

When your life is over it will not matter how many different jobs you had so it should not matter now. Paying your bills is the priority not how you pay them.

Do whatever you need to do in order to love the life you are living, and when you are trying to decide what you should go to school for...or what kind of job you want to have...Try thinking about what you want to do right now. It cannot possibly be a bad thing to have a few degrees.

Take the pressure off, you do not know what is going to happen tomorrow so love the life you are living today.

To my fellow boredom is bad peeps....Keep changing....You can always find room to store those half done projects... For me I am bored as soon as I figure it out and that means I am constantly learning...I will get back to those projects eventually. I am sure I will...

KJ

ASK KJ: Psychic Sunday...You might be and EMPATH!

2011-05-22T10:54:00.000-07:00

ASK KJ: Psychic Sunday...You might be and EMPATH!: "When you spend your whole life feeling the things you feel it would be absurd to think that you would just know that you have a gift. Far ea..."

Psychic Sunday...You might be and EMPATH!

2011-05-22T10:53:00.000-07:00

When you spend your whole life feeling the things you feel it would be absurd to think that you would just know that you have a gift. Far easier and more common to believe that everyone feels the same way. For me I just grew up thinking I was crazy. (Hush now)

News flash though, not everyone feels things the same way. I can tell you without question that everyone is born with a gut instinct. That feeling or more so that warning that takes place inside of us, like a beacon of help from above when we actually listen to it. Not a common thing, for people to listen to it. I can also tell you with complete accuracy that we are all born with some sort of ability.

Some are born to listen, some sing, some help, some create wealth, some own business, some heal, some grow things, the list could go on and on. I have told my youngest daughter we are like Tinker Bell...lol I know...but what I meant by it was we all have an area of expertise, Like wood fairies, and water fairies and earth fairies, we all have a "Category" that we fit into. A mold of individuals that see, feel and hear things a certain way.

So what does this mean to you? Well to start off with it means there is good chances you are not crazy.....This does not stop you from going through a lot of crap in the emotional department but with any luck over the next while I might be able to help you understand what you are going through....

This weekend is about Empath! The Internet's description of an empath is.....(drum roll please)

“Empaths have the ability to scan another's psyche for thoughts and feelings or for past, present, and future life occurrences. Many empaths are unaware of how this actually works, and have long accepted that they were sensitive to others.”

Now my description:

An Empath often confuses the emotions they pick up for their own, causing a multitude of confusion and fear. Walking by, driving by, sitting with, talking about an individual who is either very upset, happy, sad, angry and you start to without reason or understanding take on that feeling. Fears, worry's happening in your brain that you do not really understand, other than you are living it and feeling it. (that is what makes it so hard to understand...It is so intense how could it not be yours??? well it isn't)

Being overwhelmed by your emotions all the time....Getting a feeling about something and then finding out later you where right.....These are all tell tale signs of Empath and that is a gift.....Of course till you figure out not everyone feels this way or until you start to understand it a little better, it feels like a curse...

An empath feels things happening. Feels what is going on, takes on emotions....An empath is a healer....Someone who can be Empathetic to those who are struggling...An empath is a brilliant mind that lives in their emotions....

an old soul, and as you are reading this thinking that this applies to everyone.....No, it doesn't....

Fear not though, if this is what it feels like to be you....there is help....learning intuition, reading about empath, talking to friends....these are all ways to "deal with" learn about your gift....

When we know how to use being an Empath it is an amazing gift....I am a Clairvoyant Empath...in the mean time grab yourself a Smokey quartz ring or bracelet..it will help you cope...

Well that is my tidbit for the day.....Learn well, love often.....and remember if you want something you have never had...You must do something you have never done!

Love Kjarlune

ASK KJ: The letter that went out to my clients.

2011-05-04T04:16:00.001-07:00

ASK KJ: The letter that went out to my clients.: "If you want something you have never had, you have to make some changes! Our soul family has a job to do and that is to provide what we ne..."

The letter that went out to my clients.

2011-05-04T04:16:00.000-07:00

If you want something you have never had, you have to make some changes!

Our soul family has a job to do and that is to provide what we need. You have a job to do too, and that is to believe they will provide it. Not tell them how, not do it all yourself, but to believe they will provide. When you restrict them you restrict your options. You restrict your outcomes. LYL

It is so easy to get caught up in what is not going right in your life. To get stuck repeating your days. Same thing every day with no real clear path or belief it will change and even if it could, what would you do?

You are not alone if you are feeling lost and confused. It is common practice when not living the life you are here to live.

Whether you are not sure why you are not in that perfect relationship, or tired of being sick and tired, the only way to turn it around is to make changes.

The question that leaves you with now is change what? Or worse, How?

It is different for each of us. Life is not a small menu fast food drive through. It is a buffet of options and choices. It is everything you can imagine it to be, or nothing you want to look forward too. It can even be somewhere in the middle.

We are here to learn and to grow and how you choose to do that is your decision. Your world is full of choices even though it feels like you are only surrounded by limitations.

Even when life is amazing like mine there are still struggles. Still times when one needs a little helping hand. As most of you know I have been working on my health and weight loss and to date I am happy to say I have lost 60 pounds. Brian and I are celebrating our 6^th month of being non smokers and it looks like our oldest daughter is coming home to go to University. (Thank you Grandpa) (I sure hope this does not jinx that) lol

Even with everything going right, even knowing what and how the Universe works, even I occasionally go seek out some assistance. For me it is my weight loss and for others it is their life’s path.

Some of my best sessions in the last few months have been life coaching. Watching eyes open, and the fog lift. It is amazing.

I have had the pleasure of watching clients get past depression and feel like living. Watched a couple of business’s open up. Some healers embark in new journeys. I have had the pleasure of participating in relationships turning around and new ones started. Illness, take a back seat and new career choices get made.

It is always a surprise when life gets better so fast. Once we step out of our survival, I can figure it out on my own, headspace. The truth is every one of you who has walked through my door for help over the last few months would have never done it if you knew what you needed to do to turn your life around. So thank you for trusting that I could help.

I am so proud of everyone one of you that have turned your worlds around recently. I knew it wouldn’t be hard once you let it happen. *grin*

We can do anything with the right tools.

The show is going great. We are having meetings and working on selling it. I promise as soon as I know you know.

For those of you waiting for the Living Room Manifestation I will be booking it this month. Either Sunday the 15^th or Saturday the 21^st. If you have a preference let Brian know.

It is spring, time for change and that means May specials. I will see you when you need me. Hugs!

Psychic Life Coaching is on sale During May for $160.00

(One hour sessions) Reg Price $200.00

In-Touch Intuitive Classes During May $1195.00

(Life time course) Reg Price $1495.00

Shedding the past! 12 classes over 12 months. A very intense, channelled. Turn your life around and make things happen kind of program. Tears are shed, Life long struggles ended. Commitment REQUIRED! No acceptations! Privacy and confidentiality demanded. If you cannot keep it all in the class, DON’T JOIN! (Not being testy just very important)

Class Starts August 2011 and ends August 2012. No late entries. No refunds because it is too much to handle. You will change. You will accomplish and you will grow. (I am not the only Instructor.) During May $1195.00 regular price $2495.00 (Graduation is a class trip. Not included in class price. We start together, we graduate together.)

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ASK KJ: Day 20, If you don't have anything nice to say, do...

2011-04-28T06:37:00.001-07:00

ASK KJ: Day 20, If you don't have anything nice to say, do...: "We get so caught up in our drama's that we can't see the past our own heads to get to the end goal. I thought I lived drama free, and I hav..."

Day 20, If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all!

2011-04-28T06:37:00.000-07:00

We get so caught up in our drama's that we can't see the past our own heads to get to the end goal. I thought I lived drama free, and I have discovered none of us do. For some drama is how you cope, what you create so that you have something to work on. Something to fix. For others, like myself, it is the old tapes. The beliefs that have been instilled in us, and in the generations before us.

For some of us Drama is something you can succeed at and for others it is battle of the brain. That battle is probably.....No I can say it is without question, the biggest obstacle you will ever have to overcome in your life. I have learnt so much in the last two months. Most of it I wish I could forget, and with any luck over time, especially with my bad memory I will...However, some of what I have learnt in the last two months, almost needs to become a Hallmark card I can carry with me and read over and over again whenever in doubt. Our past and the way we have been taught leaves us in the belief no matter how hard we try, that we are not good enough, not smart enough to figure things out on our own.

Even with everything I know about the Universe and The Law of Attraction. I have spent the last 21 years believing that I know nothing about weight loss. After all if I knew how to do it, I would have done it. That my friends I have discovered is not the truth. However the belief led me down a windy road of research and trying to understand. It led me to a place of confusion and frustration. Just like when you are trying to make things happen in your life but don't have the faith you can. The worst part about not believing in ourselves is that it leaves one feeling very alone.

I have learnt that like most other things in life weight loss is an Industry and everyone knows more than me. Of course I have also discovered over the years that a interior designer knows more about decorating than me too but it doesn't stop my house from looking good. I have also discovered that there is either a million different ways to loose weight, or everyone is full of crap,. I am leaning towards the full of crap part, but I should probably change the statement. There is a million ways to lose weight, but only one way to keep it off.

Just like everything else. There is a million ways to find a relationship, but only one way to stay happily married for your lifetime. A million types of jobs, but only one that you will feel like was made for you. I have learnt that our biggest hold back is not laziness. Or even lack of motivation. My motivation has been through the roof. At 350 pounds I swim laps like I weigh 120 daily so not lazy.

Our biggest hold back in our lives is Trust in ourselves. You can learn till you are blue in the face but if you do not trust that you have the ability to do whatever it is you are setting out to do, it can't work. You can search for the "golden ticket" the one way that life will just fall into place all you want, but unless you are ready to get rid of those beliefs that were instilled as a child it is not going to work! You have to trust YOU! You have to believe in YOU! You have to have faith in YOU!

We do not get stuck because we are not trying. We get stuck because we are not believing. Even I got caught up in learning instead of trusting my intuition! MY INTUITION! You know that thing I have that people come and see me for????? Are you kidding me? I got caught up in not trusting myself....and so do you!

We get so bogged down that we do not even notice what we have done! We get so caught up in what we don't have that we don't see what we do.

We require helping hands on occasion. It is true. Going to see a psychic so they can give us our own direction is a helping hand.. Helping us get past our heads is a helping hand. Talking to a friend who knows you and can support you is a helping hand. Listening to everyone else but ourselves, well that is a road block....Losing faith in yourself and your direction in life. Losing your motivation, because you are told, or made to believe that you cannot succeed is not a helping hand. It is a road block. A success stopper...There is nothing wrong with looking for answers, but obsessing and not listening to yourself, to what you know is not the option.

Believe in yourself, no matter what. No matter what you go through or how long it takes to get out of your head, and to achieve the goal, believe in you. Because the sooner you do, the easier it gets.

Believe in yourself and you will succeed!

ASK KJ: Day 6 I see blue sky's, nothing but blue sky's..

2011-04-03T13:42:00.000-07:00

ASK KJ: Day 6 I see blue sky's, nothing but blue sky's..: "Oh what a glorious morning. As much as I am looking so forward to not seeing any more white anywhere on the ground ever again, or at least f..."

Day 6 I see blue sky's, nothing but blue sky's..

2011-04-03T13:41:00.000-07:00

Oh what a glorious morning. As much as I am looking so forward to not seeing any more white anywhere on the ground ever again, or at least for the next 6-7 months. (So much so I am seriously contemplating removing all white from my wardrobe, house, even my kids closets) I am so tired of the color. I do have to admit, when the sun is shining and mother nature starts teasing us again with a b e a u tiful day.....It's pretty.....

Of course not as pretty as green everywhere. Hot well built men walking around without a shirt...Lounge balconies full of people spending their paychecks and enjoying every second of it. That my friends is pure beauty. In Alberta anyhow.

The Stampede is coming and that means pancake breakfasts on every corner and BBQ's everywhere you look. Calgary is the home of free food, tons of booze and sex with strangers. All in the name of some good old country, getting business done, visiting, and vacationing fun.

Somewhat like Spring Break in Florida, minus the underage bikini babies, strutting their stuff and partying in a thong. Don't misunderstand me, if I had that kind of body, I would probably strut my stuff on 17th ave here in Calgary in a few shreds of material. Save the flight and party close to home. That would be me, way less competition that way.....*grin*

Yes today for me is a day for making goals....You see I reached one this morning... I am officially 60 pounds thinner...One goal reached!!!

My new goal is to be in the 200's by my birthday. I am turning 40 this year and have the need to feel amazing for that day. I am told depending on who I am talking too that wanting to loose 20 pounds a month is not a realistic goal.

It is still my goal don't misunderstand me but I am told that I should not be thinking that way. We will see. I have never been one to do what I am told so why start now.

For today, I celebrate a huge mile stone.. I can officially use my wii fitness now....

If you have never been the size I started this would not make sense to you but, two maybe three years ago, my now estranged sister got me a WII fitness for Christmas. I have not been able to use it until TODAY!

My kids did and would ask me all the time to play with them. I have perfected excuses, not wanting them to know that I was too fat to register on the WII fit board. (I tried it one night when everyone was sleeping).

That was my first goal, that WII fit has been haunting me for three years. The funniest thing is, I have no desire to use it..I just hating knowing I couldn't.

It does not matter what you want to Manifest into your life, you need to have goals. Some goals need to be along the way so that you know you are getting there. I even suggest that you give yourself plenty of time so you can breeze right past them before the time you set for it, so you can feel the energy of succeeding.

Isn't that one life is, energy and succeeding is getting to where you want to be in your life. Living the life you want to live.

The reality is that you are going to be here anyway. Be alive anyways, at least the chances are good. So if you are going to be here anyway, why not be one or two steps closer to the life you want to have? The life you fantasize about?

What is the point of getting up every day if you are not going to get to where you have the desire to be?

Some things come easy. For me it was finding my twin soul, building my business, and loving my kids. For you it might be being thin and a non smoker. It doesn't matter what it is you find the easiest in your life. It matters that you can accomplish what you find the hardest.

If I can loose 60 pounds in 4 months and be a non smoker for 5 months. You my friends can do anything you set your mind too.

Why am I writing this daily blog? To put my teachings to the test! I have been saying that manifestation is easy! I have proven it many times, but even I have taken it for granted and am now using the tools I know and love in the one area of my life I have never conquered. ME!

SO thank you Soul Family....Grandpa Gus for helping me loose these 60 pounds. I would appreciate if you could stop showing me you are around with the smell of stake smoke...(it is really gross) I know you are always here, always taking care of me and always giving me what I need. My next need personally is to be in the 200's. Let's make it happen.

At the end of the day, life is like a blue sky, endless and full of possibilities. So whether you are making goals so that you can have better mind blowing sex life with your husband like I am doing or because it will just make you feel better. Their is no negatives to becoming who you want to be.

Have a great Sunday....

One happy chubby chick.

ASK KJ: Day 5, snowed in. What a great day for...

2011-04-03T13:03:00.000-07:00

ASK KJ: Day 5, snowed in. What a great day for...: "Get your minds out of the gutter, I was going to say what a great day for cuddling under a blanket watching movies on Netflix. Which is what..."

Day 5, snowed in. What a great day for...

2011-04-03T13:02:00.000-07:00

Get your minds out of the gutter, I was going to say what a great day for cuddling under a blanket watching movies on Netflix. Which is what I have done all day.

For some looking to loose weight they have cheat days for me it is treat days and my real idea of treating myself is to curl up and not go out in the cold to the aquatic center to swim for two hours. I know it sounds sad at the end of the day but in reality I just did not have the energy nor the desire to drive there.

I am very much looking forward to my pool being clean as it is being heated right now....Once it is clean it may not be long enough for to do laps but I can do some water aerobics on those days I do not want to venture out in the car...

That is how much my hunny loves me. He worked on summarizing our pool today while I curled up watching Blue Crush. practicing my surfing the couch technique while ever so slowly munching on air popped corn.

Even when you are slimming down a movie day and pizza night are not in the realm of what not to do...Just order multi grain and eat limited.

I am in a just here mood today so no joking or being a smart ass. Just some good old fashioned watching movies while Crocheting.

ASK KJ: Day 4....am I bitchy or tired..I just don't know

2011-04-01T20:37:00.000-07:00

ASK KJ: Day 4....am I bitchy or tired..I just don't know: "Not one of my finer days, to say the least. I am not miserable and nothing bad has happened, so I think I might just be a little hormonal....."

Day 4....am I bitchy or tired..I just don't know

2011-04-01T20:36:00.000-07:00

Not one of my finer days, to say the least.

I am not miserable and nothing bad has happened, so I think I might just be a little hormonal....Shocking female...We have inherent bitch hormones.

Actually for me it is shocking because I do not cycle. I admit it I am not normal...hahahahahaha... Ok, even I can't believe I just said that. I am sure the men reading will be like, OMG did she really have too???

But I am promised to share all....Sooooo...I cycle if I am lucky once every 12 years..Well with all this weight loss coming through mother nature decided it was my turn for a present.

We will be chatting when I get a chance. Me and mother nature. Not only am I pissed at her for the snow, yeah we really needed more of that. I am now pissed, emotional and feeling somewhat psychotic because she did not go to toys r us for my present.(stomping my feet)

The day has been good though, I worked out in the pool for 2 hours doing laps./

It is so funny when someone goes into the pool and picks the lane beside me, nice nod and I can hear them thinking she won't be able to do this. Then I beat them lap for lap. After a while they start to look impressed....Then they leave because well they are done and the next person comes over and over till my two hours of freestyle and backstroking is done.

All in all a good, bitchy. emotional. but really I am doing fine kind of day.......Man am I glad this is only every 12 years....

night all I am too tired to keep typing.....
xoxoxo

ASK KJ: Sex, Hard amazing and will blow my mind. It is my ...

2011-03-31T19:59:00.000-07:00

ASK KJ: Sex, Hard amazing and will blow my mind. It is my ...: "That's the way uh huh uh huh I like it uh huh uh huh...... What a day. I am feeling somewhat frustrated but not because of anything bad. ..."

Sex, Hard amazing and will blow my mind. It is my turn on top! Day 3

2011-03-31T19:58:00.000-07:00

That's the way uh huh uh huh I like it uh huh uh huh......

What a day. I am feeling somewhat frustrated but not because of anything bad. I have been working so much over the last two days I have not been able to go to the pool and do my laps and that makes me one cranky little camper....

Over all though it has been a good day....The gods have got to find a way to make my scale disappear till weigh in on Sunday though.

Can't fairies or something come hide it?? it works for my phone, my jewelery and my brain. They disappear without any warning why can't this happen to my scale??

I swear a man invented the scale.A screwed up, sexually frustrated man who was not getting laid and he wanted his wife to pay.

He invented the scale and made sure it was out of alignment. She believed she was 20 pounds more than she was and felt so bad he consoled her.

Leaving her to believe he was the only man who would love her and thus he started getting laid again.

Bastard, should have accepted blue balls. Here I am generations later doing my thing and I feel the need to go look at the scale ALL THE TIME!!!

Obsess much, nope not me....

I will say though since shedding my 60 pound back pack, holy god that was way heavier than I knew, I have way more energy..

Water, my friend or my foe, that is the question...

I have drank more water in the last 6 months than Vancouver is going to get drowned in during 2012 let me tell you.. ( No Vancouver is not going to go under water in 2012 but I got a kick out of the looks on your faces..hahahahaha)

Seriously though, water water water. I like to swim in water, bathe in water, live in water..(still looking for my biological parents, my merents....I promise to keep you posted. Hell the National Enquirer will post it for you too I am sure.)

I am not a huge fan of drinking it...Maybe it is because I know my mer family shit in it, or maybe it is because it has NO TASTE... All I know is I feel like I am drinking 100 pounds a day of water. Of course it is working, so fine I will continue to drink it.

I mentioned yesterday that I am doing things... Uniquely and I will tell you all about it, just not yet......hahahahahhahaha..

I was a little dizzy today but it might be because I was thinking Kelly my hairdresser needs to get me some blonde highlights. (No offense to any hair color challenged out there.)

I have had dizzy times in the past so I am not that worried. That is it, that is my day. I am off to dream about my mer family and swimming, looking hot in a bikini....

With a gorgeous muscle bound man helping me....................because he thinks I am drowning.........Brian won't mind....

hugs nite all...

Desperation..(not a part of my sex daily blog)

2011-03-30T14:50:00.001-07:00

Desperation:

It is more unflattering than stretch marks.

Ask any man, he would take too much fat in the middle, boobs sagging to the floor, having to do all the work over desperation any day.

It is a waste of emotion. Worse it is a feeling that leaves it’s mark far after the desperation fades.

We all want, no we all need to be loved, needed, wanted, adored, worshiped, understood, trusted, thought of, and basically important to not only that someone special but to anyone and everyone who cares about us.

Our bodies, believe it or not is not how we get that. Our minds and the crazy tricks it plays doesn’t get it for us either. Our energy, what we present ourselves. The way we communicate, we share, we give is what is our “selling” feature.

Desperate is why your house is sitting on the market for too long, not the colors or the size.

If you are alone and desperate than you will stay alone because it is like a “condemned” sign on a property.

If you are in a relationship that is “complicated” lord knows we have all had our share of those….Then get used to complicated my darlings because you are the reason it is complicated.

If you are happy in your relationships and your lives then guess what??? You are never desperate.

Love the life you are living and let it go. Be that breath of fresh air, that magnet that attracts people to your life. Let go of the desperate and get into the “this is my life and I am going to live it” liberation.

Just like taking poison, or having that second drink desperation is a choice.

Sex, Hard amazing and will blow my mind. It is my turn on top! Day 2

2011-03-30T12:40:00.000-07:00

It Hurts so GOOOOOD!

I have an awesome trainer, really sweetheart of a guy. Young, cute, smart ass. My perfect trainer.

As a matter of fact, the day I met him he called sweetie.

If that isn't a sign....Hold the phone and hang a tie around the door, we have a winner. Prince Ali I affectionately call him. Course when he is working me over.....Asshole is the name I prefer....I love you Ali and you know it...

Here is the thing....I do love my trainer....but I HATE GETTING TRAINED!!!!!!

1st I am not a dog, I am not in need of training, I have been peeing in a toilet for years...

2nd: and this one is big...I AM A CONTROL FREAK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and training means telling me what I have to do.......Uh, yeah...no!!!

Honestly, number two doesn't work for me. I am the one that tells people how to do things.....hello....

The 3rd reason and this one gets me too. He tells me that pain is gain....Are you kidding I know that bullshit, I tell my clients and students pain means you are learning....I DON'T WANT TO LEARN!! I WANT TO LOVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

"Love, exciting and new
Come Aboard. We're expecting you.
Love, life's sweetest reward.
Let it flow, it floats back to you."

Actually I want to look hot in a pair of jeans and show my husband exactly how controlling I am...*eye brow wiggle inserted here*

As much as I love my trainer, and I do, you should go see him really. I get a hug every time and everything...I hate the pain. I do not enjoy the working out, and I get bitchy...

So this is what I have learnt.....

Don't bother even trying if you are not going to love it....Honestly getting in shape is like a great meal....Why sit down and eat it...go over your calories and gain some damn weight if you are not going to rock my world blow me over LOVE IT!

For me, like I mentioned getting told what to do, nope can't handle it...

I on the other hand, was born a fish....

I am not sure how my mom and dad got rid of my fins, and am looking into where my blood family really is, but it is true....I am a member of the mer people...Don't judge us....I love love love love love love WATER....

Swimming for me is like melted chocolate dripping off my strawberry, scorching (oops sorry hunny *batting eyelashes*) my husband...It is the great escape....my fuck the world...it is all about me time....

See for me a reason I become the fatty that could after I left my abusive marriage was that I could. Even when we know better we still eat.

I have spent enough years hurting myself the thought of doing it in a way I don't want too well it just plain sucks and because of that I am not interested. Find what you love to do, hell make it two hours sex at least your burning those calories....

I want to talk for a second about how I am going to defy what people think is healthy or good for me through out this. Know that I am not a stupid woman and have checked with my Dr. and well probably your dr too I have talked to so many....lmao..

Would we not expect KJ would totally step out of the box and loose weight even her way? I don't do anything any other way...

My grandpa god and kermit rest his soul (grandpa not Kermit...I am sure kermit is fine) helps me every night....I am telling you this because as of this morning....since Sunday I have lost R U READY???????

12 pounds...

Yep, and no it wasn't all water weight. Some but I have lost 54 before that eating my 5 meals a day working out like a dog with prince Ali.....You know the way the industry has told me too...

Well now I don't wanna! We know I hate being told what to do... I love the law of attraction.

I am going on a cruise in August, and just because I am obese does not mean I don't wanna look hot.....hahahahaha ok even I had to laugh at that........uh hem mm..... Hotter (wink) in a bathing suit while whale watching on the boat....I am going to Alaska so I know not really the hottest weather...

However, being me, I am decided that if I look better in a swimsuit I am wearing it...

So my diet is the law of attraction and the hibernating bear all rolled into one....I will tell you all about as we go..

I may land of my face, crash and burn and have to admit...(bad taste in mouth) that I am wrong...and the conventional way is the way to go. If that is the case I will go back to that but for now this Queen of fucking everything (no really I have the mug) is loving loosing it fast..

This is my thought for the day...

Our world seems to relate heavily to living in pain. Suffering seems so much easier to wrap our heads around than pleasure. (the being on top sexually is totally going to change that for me, for the record) We seem to be so drawn to pain of some kind that we so easily believe it.. Now there are even good pains...WTF!

I am left to question if the weight loss industry, the bikini industry as it should be refereed to is the same way???

In order to loose weight you must count calories, eat right, small portions, no Mac Donald's ( I am telling your their Mac wraps...fucking awesome) work out to the point of pain, drink so much water you feel like you are floating, work out more.. Maybe it is a punishment thing... Maybe it is just like when we were kids and if we did something wrong we got punished. Well I don't want to be anymore.
I have been punished enough, had to learn enough by being obese in a thin society....

Hugs all....This Hurts so good fatty with a Attitude is off like a heard of turtles...they like water too...I am going to get ready do my job and because today is my late day...probably work even later.....

hugs...peace......talk to you tomorrow

Always remember spelling and grammer well they ended when I lost on the spelling bee tv show in grade 6....so read between my lines. I promise if I ever turn this into a book an editor will finish it for me.....

Sex, Hard amazing and will blow my mind. It is my turn on top! Day 1

2011-03-29T15:57:00.000-07:00

I know what a title. I decided total honesty was the way to go here.

If you were a originally 410 pound woman you might use that as your motivation too.

Have you ever noticed that you get so busy with everything going on in your life. Your kids, your job, your relationships, lack of, then getting one, then ditching it, then finding the one. Your friends, face facts they need to be pretty crazy to keep on the same page as this friendly fatty. Bills, oh let's not forget those, those papers that come every month, whether you want them to or not....What the hell am I saying. Of course you don't want them, it is like going out to eat and the waitress asks your if you would like your bill?

No! Actually, I would like you to roll my fat ass to my car because I ate too much and not have to pay a penny. Thank you so much...*Sincere smile here*

For all of us life gets in the way. I have been teaching how to make things amazing in your world for a long time and it works. There is no denying it.

For me the time has come to stop letting life get in the way, stop letting it drive me as far as my body goes and start driving it, right to being on TOP! Brian will be so thrilled! *grin*

It is time for me to finally let go of this major hangup... You know what here is the truth...I want to be 130 pounds. I need to look amazing in a pair of jeans, and I LOVE PENCIL SKIRTS! I would just like one without a wide load sign attached thank you very much.....

SO today is day 1 of me sharing with well whoever wants to read, this journey.

****WARNING************

I am fucking crazy!!!! and if you did not know this before you are about to discover, but it is okay, I don't bite, (YET) and I am for the most part pretty easy to get along with. I am just CERTIFIABLE!

This is not going to be a awww sweet Kjarlune is loosing some weight......NOPE this is share it all bare it all.....

I am going to swear, (OBVIOUSLY) and I am going cry, (IT'S A GIVEN) I am going to scream and stomp my feet and want my mommie, but I am also going to look fucking amazing in a pair of jeans. Simple really...

It is wild because ever since I quit smoking 5 months ago I feel like I can do anything. SO this just seems like the way to go.....

The fact that at 410 pounds it hurt to much to be on top is a good a reason as any. I watch porno's it looks like a fab position..... My sex life is great.... I just want it BETTER!

SO yep, like nothing I have ever done before...

You should know I am already down. I should have started this in December...I am now today 356 I will keep you posted on that too...

I have done the conventional, now I am trying the EXTREME!!!! more about that TOMORROW!!!!

Guzoo's Me!

2011-03-29T09:16:00.000-07:00

Oh my it felt like a sneeze.

I have been watching the rants and raves about the local Three Hills home Petting Zoo over the last couple of days and I am even saddened to say I almost fell into the "burn it down" kettle.

After all, pictures can be so descriptive. They say so much, yet leave out a great deal.

I remember, before even going into my love for the Guzoo Zoo which I am sure is going to make me a bad person now....I remember a time when there was picture of my Middle Daughter Ashley after our pedestrian car accident 11 years back. She was bruised up with scratches on her and on her arm was a hand print in bedded.

Let me be a little clearer for you. She had MY hand print bruised on her arm. As clear as the day was long there it was, and if you would have looked around the other arm you would have seen the print of my other hand.

This picture looked like my little girl had been beaten, there was no question and at one point I had a few people in Cochrane believed that I abused her.

I didn't of course, what I did do was after getting up from being thrown around a building in a car accident and running to her aide with pure adrenalin moving me, I grabbed my baby and held her into my arms. To such a degree that 8 paramedics and 3 shots of morphine in the arm was what it took to get her released from my arms.

Never try to take a moms baby after trauma just for the record.

I didn't do anything to my daughter no other mother wouldn't do but if you looked at those pics I should have been burned at the stake!

I am by no means claiming that there is no way the Three Hills Zoo could treat their animals this way, I do not know the owner personally, so I certainly cannot vouch for him and lord knows I have seen things go down hill, my relationship with the child I have mentioned up above just as an example.

However is the proof completely there?

Do we know for sure, without a doubt these animals are being mistreated?

I know of a dog lover or two that would get caught up in their own lives and forget to make sure their dogs have food and water at every moment too does that mean those dogs should be euthanized?

Hey I know some kids being mistreated too should we put them down? Do you see at all what I am trying to say?

I feel like I am living in Salem and I should be looking for some witches to burn. Sorry oh sweet husband of mine of every other witch I know, it seems times have not changed, We still believe in burning at the stake before we know the truth.

Guilty until proven innocent, that is our nature.....SO well we are so quick to judge, let's take a better look!

This Zoo has been around for over 25 years. It is run by a family, A HUMAN FAMILY! They have Tigers,and lions and bears OH MY! they also have dogs and a monkey which used to be two, and cats, and birds etc etc etc....

They are not the local Zoo and I have personally found out that if you wanted to go give them a helping hand your volunteering would be more than appreciated......

Why do I even have a opinion? Two reasons, one I am judged every day and the whole judge first say oops later is getting really old for me.....

Second this Zoo everyone including my daughter in law is bashing, is the same Zoo that opened on Christmas day instead of eating with their family so that I could play with Bassett hounds. So my kids could touch a tiger,it was an amazing day as every one has been when I am at the Guzoo.....

This cruel animal owner, stood with me for an hour and told me everything I could want to know about Basset Hounds, because he is a rescue for them. He watched me close as I wanted to steak Jazz a basset with an attitude, and he treated my children, Eddie Ashley Ashley and Kailyn like they were his family.

He granted my husband my greatest Christmas gift......SO I for one will find out if they need some help first before I judge.....I have had bad times too and I by no means believe that an animal of any kind should be mistreated, I truly don't, I love animals. But I also know there is always more to a story than what we judge on.

Blessed by my witch friends, they may be coming after you next!

Time to take out the trash!

2011-03-27T23:53:00.000-07:00

We spend so much time trying to be careful that we do not take into account what we are really doing to ourselves.

Before I go there have you ever noticed how fast we judge a stranger or friend doesn't matter really? Be honest with yourself here for moment, no one is going to know but you and me... We judge so fast. What someone wears, how someone looks, who someone is, what has been said about another person, we cast stones so fast.

Have you ever heard of the saying "Those should not cast stones who live in glass houses" ? It's true but we all do it. Yep even me.

Before I met my husband I was to say the least I relationship failer, yes I said failer. I would say I failed in a relationship but frankly and I say this with the most honesty I can muster, there should be an Olympic sport called relationship failer. I would be a gold medalist hands down!

I would get into relationships I KNEW would not work. Are you kidding me really? No job, did drugs, and had no connection to their family???? hmm, no really they were sweethearts, who were just misunderstood. *sigh*

Yep I knew how to pick them. Funny because I used to say all the time that finding someone was not difficult, of course I understand now that the quality I was looking for was not grade a beef, nope it was ground regular hamburger. Needless to say they are easy to find. Just like the grocery store they fill most of the space in the meat isle.

Yet it never stopped me from judging someone about who they where with.

Have you ever noticed that we all have an opinion? Not just any opinion, let me re frase that.

Have you ever noticed we all have the right opinion? That would be more accurate don't you think? I'm right, therefore you are wrong does seem to apply to most of our moments where we are trying to control things, or when we are giving our much needed advice to those we care about.

It is true "opinions are like assholes, everyone has one." but and this is the big part here, our opinions are only right when we are saying someone else is wrong. I know therefore you don't. I am right therefore you are wrong

Opinions are a way of controlling and the funny thing is we say we are just trying to help, we are giving our unneeded opinion because we care. It is true we do care, and it is true we share because we don't want to see someone get hurt, or go through bad things, but the reality is we also give an opinion because we are scared they might know better.

Scared we might not be right after all.

Have you ever noticed we don't trust what we cannot control?

We say we trust our friends, and our loved ones, but do we really? Do you share every part of you? Jumped right in with both feet? or are you like everyone else and you test the water first before you climb into the pool?

The saddest part is that we don't trust ourselves either, nor do we trust that we will learn what ever we need too and nothing will happen that we cannot handle.

Trust is about accepting, someone for their word, that things will be a certain way. Yet we believe what we are told and in turn pass judgement because of the information we have been given.

Have you ever noticed it is never our fault? Always someone else's. That friend who gave you the advice, the one who told you to go for it, it is her fault. I would have never taken a chance if she did not tell me too, bitch.

The extra weight I am carrying, hello!!!!! I have been working way to hard to work out. I don't have time to eat right. My career is far to hectic. Who has time to make a salad?

Here is the reality,

it is time to take out the trash.

We judge because we feel inferior, and we have an opinion because we need to feel better. Trust is something that if we give we loose control even though we don't want the control we are scared to let it go and it is never our fault because if it is our fault then that explains why we are not good enough!

All of this stems from fear and is a complete waste of time. The truth is I would not have missed one regular beef relationship because without it I would not have met my husband. Even I am not always right, but if you can trust what you know in your heart you will be more right then you have ever been before. Instead of judging take the time to ask questions, think past the momentary glimpse and you might see something you can relate too, I do every day in every reading. Fear is a waste of an emotion and can stop us from living so throw out the trash, start over and give yourself a chance.

Try something new, be who you want to be and let go of those past beliefs.

Love your life...
KJ

Oh what a day!

2010-12-24T00:36:00.000-08:00

Oh what a day!

I am sure there is more important things to do right now than hear about my day, but it was the worst. Most amazing day I have had in a long time. Being so close to Christmas I feel like it all happened for a reason and was life altering for me. Isn’t at the end of the day that a big part of the Christmas season. It was more a day of forgiveness for me if that makes any sense and it is also a day I feel the need to share.

I have been suffering for over a week now with the tremendous back pain. Over the last 2 days I have been in so much pain I have barely been able to walk and have not been able to work. A stress this close to the season not wanting to let down any clients.

Anyways, I went to a Chiropractor for the first time in my life yesterday and today it seemed believe it or not worse. Scary as I have never been to one before.

Today the day before all my family traditions start. Pie making, food preparing, shopping for food, making sure all the stocking were done being stuffed, you know all the last minute holy shit Christmas moments.

None of this really matters other than to tell you that hardly being able to walk and lots of shopping to do left me with one option. A shopping scooter throughout Wal-Mart. Some maybe thinking what is the problem, so let me explain. I am 39 years old, 350 pounds. I cannot believe I just wrote that….. What would you be thinking looking at a fat woman riding around in a scooter? Esp. middle aged….omg….fat person……holy shit…….

You would be thinking the same thing as I am not proud to say I would be thinking. Wow too fat to walk. Get some exercise that is gross. I am just being honest when I respond this way so no point taking it the wrong way.

Talk about a low moment in my life. I admit that I already know I have weight to loose, but to be that exposed is a very difficult thing to face. Needless to say if you would have seen me today with my head dropped low and my eyes looking at the ground, the isles, anywhere but people. Not really something most could imagine by someone as opinionated and outspokenly confident as I come across to be.

My husband I will say and my daughter Kailyn made it so much better for because the support was out of this world. Kailyn never left my side, never faltered for a minute. Looked at everyone in the eye and said Merry Christmas. I am so proud of her. Brian was so amazing too right with me the whole time, watching people, almost daring them to judge his wife. I am very lucky.

I should also say rather emotional and tense lately as I have recently quit smoking, or at least so far. I believe in an hour by an hour day by day thing here.

As I am scooting through out the store, at my lowest in a very long time, it hits my like a ton of bricks.

I did this to myself. We all do it to ourselves. Nobody has forced me to eat in the last 17 years. Plenty of time to get past that. Nobody stops me from eating properly and loosing weight but me. So I put myself here. I did this.

I have allowed myself to be in bad spots before and I have learnt to get past it. Learnt to grow and become stronger. My confidence started to grow as my acceptance did.

It is funny but when you take the time to realize why you are responsible for where your life is in every aspect. You actually get a feeling almost like you are being freed from that torment you have been living through.

I have dealt with way worse than this, and I have gotten over it, out of it, way past it. The only thing stopping my weight loss is me, the only thing griping out not smoking is my head and the only thing standing in the way of the life I want is ME!

Today became the worst/best day I have had in a long time. I no longer feel sorry for myself and that is how it works. Accept the responsibility is the only way to start.

So this for me is the best Christmas present ever and because of instant results. My back is better than it has been in days. I am sitting up on my bed typing. No cane, No feeling like I can’t move. The law of attraction, manifestation is an amazing thing. So well you are dreaming of sugar plums and lolly pops. I am going to be dreaming about Victoria secret outfits that fit. I will probably dream about my husband and Kailyn too, because lucky for me I manifested them too.

Love my life. Merry Christmas everyone.

The Ultimate Christmas present kids will never forget!

2010-12-07T09:47:00.000-08:00

So in the last post, it was all about tis the season to learn to not stress.....Make family your greatest present, and the feedback says we get it.

I was having my late coffee night with my best friend Rex, last night, it was Monday after all. Not sure I thought that one through completely as I woke up to pounding being done in my pool room. Perhaps I should remember when my husband says they are coming to replace the felt on the table that this would mean not to go to bed really late in the future, oh well live and learn.

While sitting talking about everything and anything like we do on our coffee nights the topic of presents, saving some money and giving the kids what they will care about came up.

I thought back to when I was growing up, I took a moment and thought about what would have meant the most to me, and the truth is it would have been that my parents took time to notice me. Took the time to know me enough that their present would show me they know my good things and my not so good.

When I was growing up I would make coupon books for my parents. Coupons that they could use to get me to do things I would normally complain about without any issues. I did it because I couldn't afford to buy them anything and I wanted them to have something.

It hit me, what a great idea!

A coupon book that shows the kids you pay attention.

Here are some of the ideas I came up with....

Remember to think back to when you were a kid, what kind of things would you want to get for free?

1) Get out of shit. This entitles ______________________ to use this coupon right before Mom or Dad are going to start yelling and screaming. You will get out of trouble without punishment on certain conditions. You not break the law, do not break _________ (used your prize position.)

2) Mom or Dad will do your chores for the day. ( Needs to be a day off as mom and dad might be a little busy paying the mortgage,)

3) Skip school for the day. (we need days off work and if you say that you have never in your life called in sick when you weren't, I might have to call bull)

4) kick dads ass at video games all day. ( let them show us what they can do)

5) sleep in as late as I want card. Must be presented the night before, only to be used during holidays or weekend. Can go with with skip school day.

6) Teach dad to skateboard.

7) Mom does the homework for one subject for one day.

8) get the day with the parents. if the parents have plans the kids can use this coupon to make you cancel your plans and spend the day with them watching movies.

9) family game night with McDonald's.

10) trade roles for the day. You are the parent and I am the kid.... (think about how much fun they would have with this one... It is one day.....)

I could keep going here but the fun is making it to suit your kids, or your spouse....You can even laminate them and make them trading cards if you have more than one kid.... wrap it up in a box and your kids will love it....The great part is so will you, because when they use the coupons, you will know what they need. It will give you a chance to turn things into a team family.

Get creative, show the ones you love that giving the gift of you is way better than what you could buy.....

Have some fun this Christmas and show the family you love them........

I will post some picks of my trading cards as I make them...

Kjarlune

Tis the season to be stressed out....Fa la la la la la la la la

2010-12-05T08:14:00.000-08:00

Christmas is the most stressful time of the year. My director actually made me tired last night when he described his Christmas, they run around literally from morning to night, back, forth, back, forth. Non stop and that does not even begin to describe the stress most of us feel while having to somehow someway come up with extra money for presents.

In this day and age not even presents, man the TV is showing a good parent buys their kids a big screen TV new lap top and an Iphone. It has all gotten out of hand, and we have let it happen.

Now don't misunderstand me, us business owners have a job to do in December. Being totally honest that job is to sell more. Christmas is the best time of the year for shopping. There are sales everywhere you look, specials all over the place, yet the stress is still sitting weighing heavy on us, to out due, make sure, and supply a Christmas for those that we love.

In the last two weeks I have heard more tension and stress about our coming yule tide cheer than I have heard any other year. Heck even my house has had some un needed stress and worry about Santa coming.

Have we lost the point of Christmas all together? It isn't about what is under the tree, I know everyone says that, but if it was really what everyone felt then where is the stress coming from?

I cannot say I am any different than anyone else, Christmas has been my time of year every year to spoil my kids...Okay who am I kidding everyday has been my time of year to spoil my kids. The more I have the more I want them to have, but we are making a mistake.

We are falling out of love with a holiday that is about tradition, and snuggling with our loved ones. A nice dinner a spot of eggnog and rum, laughing and loving the people we have in our lives.

We have fallen into the trap of caring whats under the tree, going into debt, stressing out beyond what most of us can handle. and it is time to stop.

Sure the kids want the new xbox, the phones, the crap but at the end of the day, they don't need it. What we all need is each other, what our kids needs is some special time, a tradition they can count on, a time of the year that they don't have to have a relationship with their parents in the hallways while we say love you heading to work, or did you get your homework done while trying to throw some supper together so that you can finish the work you brought home. Trust me in five years they are not going to remember what they got, only what the day was like.

They ask for the xbox because they can but what they really want is us. What we all really want for Christmas is love, some family time, a great afternoon nap while smelling the turkey cooking.

Stop stressing and start enjoying. If the money is tight, buy some inexpensive family games and attach a note to it that says once a week is family night. Give them the gift of love, a letter telling them what they mean to you, what sharing the last year with them has done for you.

Make Christmas the time of love not stress. Have a friend over for dinner, make a coupon book that gives the gift of you. Lord knows my kids would love a week of their choice off from doing chores, now that's a gift.

Get back to the reason for the season, love, friends, family and some much needed time off.

Trust me when I tell you they are not going to love those great big presents enough to except you working overtime for 6 months to pay them off.

Give the people you love the greatest gift of all, give them you.

We are all going through difficult times, money is tight for everyone. Adults don't need gifts they need love. Kids don't need expensive they need their parents. Be thankful feel blessed for the warm house, the great Christmas dinner.

I normally go to extreme at Christmas, I am not even coming close to lying when I say it is normally a 10-15 thousand dollar touch for me, but you know what? Not this year. That DJ hero my daughter needed so bad last year has not been touched in months, those books, they have all been read and now my 10 year old is bored, I can't remember which piece of jewelery my husband got me last year. Oh wait yes I can, he got me a ring I love but never wear.

The stress is not worth it. The worrying is not worth it.. This is the first year in 20 that I am not stressing, there will be two presents under the tree for every child, Santa's and their letters. Nope this year is about what my kids need most. They need me, they need Brian and they need to know we love them, believe it or not what we spend on them doesn't show that.

That new phone is just going to get them into trouble, the new PlayStation a reason to not talk to their parents, and no one needs a lulu lemon sweatshirt.

The truth is we have all screwed up and it is time to change it. For the first time I am excited about Christmas, our special ornaments on the tree, that wish when the angel gets lit, gingerbread molasses cookies. Lazy boy subs, with hot chocolate and peppermint schnapps on Christmas eve.

Kailyn while watching Christmas movies, whispering to Amanda's belly how much grandma loves Hailey. My kids moving home so I can enjoy my grand baby full time. The tears and hugs when they read their Christmas letters. Cuddling with my husband while watching the lights on the tree dance. Thanking god for being so blessed.

I am looking forward to a couple of days off with my family. Toni coming for Christmas, Nadia coming for supper. Rex and my nephews sharing the day with me. My mom and dad coming to laugh and enjoy with us. I am looking forward to Christmas, the real meaning, not a gift. They don't really matter.

We are all so blessed this year and that includes being blessed about being broke. The best thing that can happen is not having money for Christmas because then you can see what it is really about.

To my family, I am the luckiest mom, wife, sister, daughter in the world, the only gift that could ever matter is the gift of each of you in my life.

So what does this psychic want for Christmas??? Santa's already been and he left me love.

Enjoy the holiday, strop stressing and love the life you are living,..

Love My Life Kjarlune Rae.

Jump the gun!

2010-12-02T14:26:00.000-08:00

It does not matter what is happening in our lives. You can be guaranteed that it is worse or better because of our emotions.

Just today alone I have two appointments where my clients have actually known the direction their life is going, the reality of what is really happening in their lives, yet their emotion got in the way. Convincing them of the opposite.

There is always at least two sides to everything going on in your life. The reality and what your emotion says it is.

How many times do we get into stupid arguments with our spouse because we "misunderstood" what they were trying to say. Or didn't pay attention to the whole situation and instead just jumped the gun.

Issues at work because we assumed, or even worse. Convincing ourselves that someone is mad at us, that something isn't right, even though you have no proof of that what so ever!

The claim is that we spend too much time in our heads, but maybe the truth is we spend too much time in our emotions. In our poor poor pitiful me.

Creating stress over things that are not worth stressing about and if we could just take a second and pull our heads out of our own butts, we would know that. We would understand and know that things are not as they seem.

The reality is things are never as they seem. You create the struggles in your life even when you don't know you are.

Manifestation is very simple to do, everyone of us do it everyday of our lives. Most of the time it is because we are jumping the gun. We are convincing ourselves things are going to be a certain way. It is just as easy to have life go right as it to have it go wrong, but what is the first thing you think about? The bad, the complicated, the difficult.

We are such complicated creatures in such a simple world. It is time to take the wax out of our ears, pay attention to what is really happening. What is really supposed to be happening, what is really meant to be.

If it isn't broken stop trying to fix it and if you are not messed up stop telling yourself that you are.

It is simple, no more jumping the gun and start paying attention to reality. In order for something to be we have to believe in it. It cannot happen unless you believe it can

When you can't believe, can't understand or officially need a head removal from butt kicking call me, the rest of the time start believing and make it happen.

love
KJ

ASK KJ: Dreams are reality just waiting to happen

2010-11-04T18:04:00.000-07:00

ASK KJ: Dreams are reality just waiting to happen: "Life is about living. It isn’t about sitting back and waiting for things to happen. It is about moving forward taking steps, getting ahead, ..."

Dreams are reality just waiting to happen

2010-11-04T18:03:00.001-07:00

Life is about living. It isn’t about sitting back and waiting for things to happen. It is about moving forward taking steps, getting ahead, following a dream. See the secret is that it would not be a dream if you could not have it.

There is a big difference between fantasy and dreams. A fantasy is a way to escape from life, never going to be a reality.

A genie in a bottle, with three wishes, and you can have anything.

A fantasy is your mind's way of taking a break from the real world. Because you are unhappy with something, or because you do not feel like you can go after your dream.

A dream is an idea you have not yet brought forward to be a part of your life. A dream is a reality you have not yet figured out you can do. Not yet given yourself the credit to believe in.

We make the mistake of being scared to take a chance, when, in reality, we take chances every day. Fear is what is stopping you from getting the life you want. Convince yourself of whatever you can but at the end of the day you are scared. We all are! It doesn’t matter how many thousands of people I see, it comes down to the same thing. We are scared, scared to fail, and scared to succeed.

The problem is we are looking at it wrong. Why are we scared? Why fear? It cannot be because you can never do it, until you try you don’t know that. It cannot be because you have seen it a thousand times, and it hasn’t worked, not one of us have the same dreams. It also can’t be because we think that people can’t have it all, we all know of at least one person that does.

There are people out there that are living their dreams. I am one of them, so I know this to be a fact. We are unfair to ourselves when we don’t take chances what is the worse thing that will happen? You will discover it isn’t what you want. At the end of the day it doesn’t matter. Spend your life doing the same thing and being unhappy or spending your life trying things and learning and growing. What sounds better to you?

We even try to tell ourselves that it is because we don’t know what we want, or we don’t know how, but it isn’t true. We just get stuck in our own heads. We tell ourselves it isn’t possible. We tell ourselves it is too hard.

Life is like buying a house. The first time is scary. What if I can’t afford it, what if I don’t like it, what if?

If you want it, you will succeed in paying for it, and you will like it. This is the same with life!

Too many of us have given up before we even try.
If you need the help figuring out how to live your dream go see someone to help. If you don’t believe you can do it look back at all the things you have done. If you think you don’t deserve it ask yourself why. But for the love of all that is worth it, trying means success.

Doing will give you the energy to do more. Living will make your world and yourself worth it. You have nothing to lose. If you are not happy with your life now, changing it is your only option.

It is my life dammit!

2010-10-29T14:16:00.000-07:00

As kids we are taught that if we take the blame for something we did wrong, we get in trouble. I know I always say to my kids if you tell the truth you will get in less trouble. But the reality is we don't want to get in trouble at all period.

This is no different as a adult. For this reason we find it very difficult to take the responsibility for our actions, our lives, and our mistakes/lessons.

It seems so easy to notice when others aren't doing it right but when it comes to ourselves well let's face it, things have not changed and that not me kid that drove your parents crazy still lives with you. Little bastard still creates havoc in your life, and no matter how hard you try you just cannot get right of him.

Did you catch the sarcasm here?!?!? It is easy to notice when someone else is in the wrong but when do you take the time to notice you are? Instead of blaming situations, exes, family, everyone or anything else you can, it is time to look in the mirror.

Like I said we have been taught that this will get you into trouble but the truth is, being accountable and accepting what you have done wrong or right actually just means you are human. If we don't learn to accept and learn where we played a role in what went wrong, or what goes wrong then nothing can change. If it isn't because of us then we continue to do the same things, hoping for a different result.

So here is the deal we are not 5 anymore, and the only person our choices really effect for the rest of our lives is us. It is your life and if it is not going the way you want, it is you not allowing it. It is you not changing it and it is you not taking accountability for your actions.

What do I mean?

Yes I am a former abused wife and yes he was brutal. But I knew that and I still got married. (Hello DUH!) and worse than that I knew it and still pushed his buttons. So yes he beat me, but I also pushed him. I also felt that is what I deserved or I would have never allowed it to happen. So poor me doesn't work. Dumb ass seems an appropriate fit, Don't you think?!?!?!?

You have to treat yourself the way you want everyone else to treat you and you have to treat everyone else the way you want to be treated. You are the front line my lovelies, so if you can't see where you screwed up or what you did that you could have done differently then no one else is going to see they should treat you better either.

I am a far freer happier person knowing that I am not perfect. No one is, and the more I realize where I am needing some work the easier it is to work on. So it is your life dammit, stop blaming everything including the weather for why it isn't the way you want it. You will be happy that you did.

Love hugs, and the slap that was needed

Kjarlune Rae

Triggers who would have thought.

2010-09-29T17:15:00.000-07:00

I tell people all the time that I am still learning and growing every day in my life too. It doesn't matter how much a person understands what is sitting on the other side. How the Universe works, what our soul families jobs are, a person can still get tripped up.

I have worked very hard over the last two decades to become not only a different person than I was growing up but also to learn what is required in our lives to manifest an amazing life. For the most part I have a pretty good understanding but yes even for me the odd "trigger" pops up leaving me to feel like I have learnt and achieved nothing.

I ask myself if anyone else has ever felt that and the reality is they must have. Not because I am special and people should fallow at all but because I have learnt the rule of thumb that if you feel it, millions of others do too.

I go through times in my life where I question everything. Wonder if I am on the right page, does what I am doing make any sense or for that matter any difference. IT is true, I go through the questions too but for the most part that is when I am feeling sorry for myself. Honesty needed in my opinion. However this weekend, well that wasn't what happened.

I have not seen my parents best friends in I would have to say 20 years. I was trying to calculate before I started writing and the last time I seen them was at my sisters wedding. I was sixteen and I am now Thirty Nine.

At 16 I was a wreck. Hell truth be told at every age I was a wreck but especially when I decided to throw any security out of the window and run away from home.

Needless to say the last time Gary and Cheryl seen me ( my moms and dads best friends) I was someone even I would not have wanted to know. I lied, talked all the time, felt like I had something to prove, all around annoying to say the least.

With the TV show filming and all of the successes that I have reached in the last 15 years, my mom and dad were pretty excited to share with them all about me. And well naturally I wanted to see people I have not seen in years. Who knew what it would do to me.

There is no exaggeration for me to tell you that the moment I walked into my parents house to see them, I became 16 again. Now that would be great if my ass tightened and my legs looked great again with a flat tummy, but nope. No instead I was a 16 year old punk ass teenager with my head screwed right up, stuck in Kjarlune Rae, Canada's Top Clairvoyants body. WHAT THE HELL!

Talk about taking the wind out of my sails. Even though I know that we can't guarantee we have gotten over everything in our lives I discovered that their is a big chunk of my past that still holds on.

I walked out of my parents house a half hour later and by the time I got home I was mad at myself, overwhelmed and in tears. How could I let something so minor become such a big deal. How could I let the emotions of a child come back to haunt me as a grown up. How did I let it happen.

Here is what I learnt. No matter how much growth you have done in your life. No matter how great you make your life taking one step forward at a time. Until you have been faced with something you do not realize what kind of work you might still need.

Life is a uphill struggle, I would love to tell you it isn't but I would be lying. I discovered again this weekend that even when your life is going amazingly things can still jump up and bite you. Triggers are still just that triggers and there is no way you can face them until you are in a position to notice them.

Don't misunderstand me life is also unbelievably amazing. It is everything you want it to be and then some if you allow it. That doesn't mean you stop learning. It doesn't mean you don't make mistakes. It means that the better you are doing with your life the easier it is to notice when you hit a bump in the road.

Feeling guilty or beating yourself up is a waist of time. It gets nothing accomplished other than making you feel like shit.

So when you find yourself in a situation that you would give anything to not be effected but you are, remember, you are only human, and every action and reaction you have stems from a line of triggers. When you notice, let the emotion go and work on the trigger.

Because this weekend I found out that I am still that little girl who gets overwhelmed and doesn't always find herself feeling safe and secure in who she is, but I am also a strong confident woman who lived through the pain and can come around the other side knowing she can do anything.

There is positive in anything and everything if you just allow yourself the opportunity to see it, live it and feel it.

LOVE MY LIFE. and best of all, they aren't my friends so at the end of the day. What do I care who they think I am? I know who I am and so do you, never give up on your dreams or let go of the fight because you get thrown down a little. That makes the future so much more appealing...

love my life.

All the single ladies! Somethings are just too good not to share.

2010-08-01T02:06:00.000-07:00

This is going to be very personal for me. But sometimes you just gotta do something different to get a different result...*wink*

I have shared many times, how lucky I am at meeting and marrying my twin soul. I do not mention it to brag, honest to god even though I would about him any day.. I actually share about him because I believe that if I can show you what I say works the average person will have more faith in their life and because they will see what I never did before I met him. That twin souls do exist.

Because I am so blessed to have a lot of listeners and fans...something I still cannot wrap my head around. I have the opportunity to share with all of you single ladies that an amazing man really does exist, and I can say for a fact more than one. As I personally know a few....hundred....*grin* I should probably get to the point.

I hear women say they are looking for their twin soul every day, but they are impossible to find. I personally believe that we are either not really looking for that or we have no idea what that looks like.

I know some of the most amazing men, but the two that are the most important other than my kids to me is without question my husband, whom I adore. and my best Male friend.

Right now I want to talk about my best Male friend....

I have discovered over the years that men are looking for the exact same thing women are. They want to be loved just as much, wanted and needed just as much.

My best male friend is no exception to this rule. However, like you ladies it is hard to find that woman that can rock his world. Let's face it, with a best friend like Kjarlune Rae, looking for what will do??? Not even an option....lol...and not only because I am bossy, *grin* but also because he witnesses a great relationship every day with his sister, that would be me, and his close friend and brother...that would be my husband.

Like most of you he is looking in all the wrong places. Or just not noticing in all the right places, either way it breaks my heart because I hear women say they want perfect and for the right woman he is, but hasn't found her yet.

I feel this overwhelming need and I hope he does not get mad at me, *gulp* to share about a man I know so well.

We want a man who is kind, loyal, understanding, and supportive and he is. He is also sensitive, and gives of himself without conditions. He is a half time/full time father and on many occasion I refer to him for advice on how to deal with one of my kids because he is a without words can describe dad.

We want a man who can stand his own and he does, but he also stands beside you with respect and adoration, all the while making sure you know how he feels about you at all times. This is one quality I discovered from Brian, my husband, is one of the most important things in a relationship. They need to stand by you no matter what, not always tell you that you are right, because we aren't but even when you are wrong, they support and acknowledge your efforts. He, my friend, never leaves any room for doubt about how he feels about something, always with the respect to review and try to put himself in someone Else's shoes. He takes the time to learn everything about you, what you require.

Just an example he was shopping with a friend of ours the other day and was in a plus size store. He finds beauty in all woman however he takes the time to take care of himself and so is attracted to fit women. Anyways he put himself in larger women's shoes in his head for a while and decided that plus size clothing stores just don't get it. What bigger women need to feel sexier and better. Hello, talk about a blow the mind kind of conversation.

We want a man who can stand out from a crowd. Not because everyone is staring but because he is confident enough to be noticed. I have watched him talk to almost every walk of life, every type of person, standing tall and giving respect. Always being noticed even when he didn't know it. He always makes sure the people around him feel wanted and important. But stands his ground and agrees to disagree if it is not what he believes. I have watched him when attracted to a woman always have some sort of contact when out in public. I don't know about you but when my husband has his hand on my lower back or always touches me I feel like the most important woman in the world. Every woman should need this and my friend does it without even thinking.

He was raised by a single mom, I don't know if that matters to anyone else, but I have never met a man raised by a single mom that does not have unbelievable respect for the female raise. An amazing mom if the truth be told and he makes a point of sharing that with her any chance he gets. Sounds like a mamas boy doesn't it? It isn't though, Just healthy respect and admiration for a woman who sacrificed to make him a better man.

We love a sense of humor, man he makes me kill myself laughing all the time. He is pretty good and joining in with Brian to drive me insane too but let's be honest without that we ladies would have nothing to bitch about on a ongoing basis. LOL...

We want a mans man, who is comfortable in their sexuality. He rides a bike.......looks like a man that should not be messed with, until he smiles then you just know he is a softy. No question he fits the rugged that most women want.

We want someone who can take care of things. He owns his own home, can fix anything and can cook and does all of his own cleaning. Never has he showed up to see me without a tea from Timmy's and a huge hug.

Parties, not too much, cuddles, gives attention, loves without condition, always makes me feel safe and like I am important. ( I am very lucky, an amazing husband and a killer best male friend.) and he is alone. I don't get it.

I could truthfully write about him for hours because I know him well. What I don't understand is how he can be single. It probably looks like I am writing a woman wanted add and in part I suppose I am, because I just want to see him happy. But this is also about finding a way to get all the single ladies out their out of the belief system that great guys do exist. I don't want to see him with just anyone, she has to be spectacular. But he is such a good guy and should not be single.

I want to see everyone in this world with that perfect person, that one that completes you and makes you feel like you could climb the biggest mountain and succeed.

He tries so hard to show me that he is fine, that he is happy and for the most part I believe he is, but sometimes, not having that someone is killer on him and all of you. Especially when you see people happy and in love. I give him so much credit, it would drive me crazy and for him it never does, or at least he never shows it.

The truth is their is more than one great man out looking for his twin, there is many. Ladies give these men a chance they just might own a white horse.

If you are an amazing, fit, woman who is interested in meeting a man I adore I am willing to share my friend. He truly is beyond words, send me a message, I might hook you up with my best friend. Oh and ladies, trust me on this, he does not need me to set him up...he is very good looking. I am married, not dead....lol...*grin* Even my husband would have to concede, he is a good looking man!

A ginger, Love you R, but a good looking man. lol...

To my friend, I love you, you mean the world to me, I thank god, and my soul family every day for us crossing paths. She is out there, I promise, and I won't rest either till you find her. That my friend is a wedding, I am most looking forward too. The thought of sharing you when I have been so lucky, doesn't thrill me, but I still have my husband so I will make it through. I sure hope he doesn't get mad at me, because I am attaching pictures!!!!! In the next couple of days....

hugs single laides, KJ

It is never too late for New Beginnings!

2010-07-21T11:23:00.000-07:00

It doesn't matter who we are. How well we know ourselves. How in tune we might be. Falling into the trap of being stagnant is a problem for everyone.Staying motivated and being motivated can take a lot out of a person.

Life can and unfortunately does get in the way. I know for me one thing leads to another and before I know it, six months and not one chapter written. A year and nothing has changed.

It would surprise some of you, I am sure, to know that most of the time, knowing what you need to do, or want to do is not actually the problem. The problem is taking it from the thought in your head to the reality of your world.

Just like most of you I have used the excuse of being too busy. I say excuse because, and this is the same for all of you. It is an excuse.

Sure life is busy, absolutely our kids get in the way, our life takes over, work drains us, extra hours, blah blah blah, but here is the deal. If we have time to go on Facebook, watch a TV show, soak in a tub, wash our cars, etc, then we have time to get what we want done, done!

The trouble is falling into the trap of not having the energy. I am so tired, I am not sleeping properly, I am feeling so blah, I have a hard time getting out of bed. We all feel it and when we do, there goes any energy.

So it then falls into, I will do it tomorrow, I will get my finances figured out tomorrow, I will write that letter tomorrow, I will look for that tomorrow. Tomorrow never comes. You have Yesterday and it is already gone so what you did cannot be taken back, and Today, which is what matters. Say tomorrow all you want but when you open your eyes it will be today.

So, why have I not expanded the business more? Gotten the writing done, had that much needed talk with my 16 year old, moved into the acreage, re organized my world, had some quality time with my husband????? Because I kept waiting for tomorrow.

You know what I have to say to that? No More DAMMIT! I am not waiting another day to get started on what I have wanted to work on for forever and either should you.

This is what we don't understand, we think we are too tired, think we do not have time, frankly we think way to damn much. The truth is getting some things done, makes you feel better, not procrastinating gives you more energy, more energy gets things done faster, and before you know it you are exactly where you want to be.

I would love to tell you it is as easy as getting our lazy asses up and moving but if that was the case, well we wouldn't procrastinate....

It takes more than that but the good side is that it isn't painful.

For me, I needed to look at what was causing me to procrastinate and the truth was it was having a home office. I have to be honest and actually say that having a home office was a great excuse. I have no doubt fear played a pretty big role here.

For most of us it is because we are stuck, afraid, need some push.

The reality is I have nothing to fear, and if I just concentrate on what I am wanting to do and not on the end result it can happen without me even registering it. Once things are where they are supposed to be well, we are human and have this great ability to adapt. SO I will adapt and so will you.

If we drop things down to the simple accomplishment of it then we can get it done.

So instead of dwelling and dealing in the fear I went with what I could handle. The home office.

Simple really, I moved my office. Moved my computer, all of my files, all of my working on projects.

As it turns out a persons energy really does start to get charged up when you make a change. My to do list has already dwindled, accomplishments are being made and I am feeling Fan-freaking-tastic.

Change your environment. If you have everything locked up in a room of the house you can avoid, move it to your kitchen table. It will drive you crazy and you will have to get it done. If you cannot get motivated at home, go find a great coffee shop or escape to get it done. No more excuses.

If you are feeling frumpy and not getting anything done, go change your hair, buy a new outfit and get on with it. You are your own worst enemy.

I have been in my new office since Friday, and this is what I have done. Affirmations DONE. Wall sense with KJ, created and DONE. Lip sense with KJ, created and DONE! Vlogging almost set up and done. Book, two new chapters DONE! Energy? OMG you have no idea, I am up in the morning, the MORNING??? if you knew me you would know the morning, anytime in the morning, is for sleeping. Or at least it was. The best part about all of this. My kids and my husband have seen me more. I have been able to have two birthday get tog ethers, nothing has suffered and everyone around me has gained.

The first trick is to change up the environment that has you in a slump, the second trick, no more excuses. Third get excited, fourth, do not even think about the fears, you will adapt. Five, take a look around because you will be happier and calmer.

It is never to late to start over, never to late to redo things, never too late to want more, never to late to make things happen. It is Never To Late for A New Beginning.

Love my life. Love yours.
KJ

What more can we do!

2010-07-14T01:17:00.000-07:00

I hear everywhere. I don’t know if I believe in a soul family. I am not sure if there is something bigger out there than me. How do I know they will look after me?
What if they don’t give me what I ask? What if they listen to everyone but me? How do I know they are listening? What do I ask for? Can I count on them? Man I could list a thousand of questions I am asked on an ongoing basis, all with the intent of looking for proof that there is something bigger out there than us and its job is to look after us.

"I will believe it when I see it." That is one of my favourites.

Every day we do things in our lives. Say things are a certain way and all without seeing proof of it, but the one thing that is your constant, The Universe. Well now let’s sit down and show me some proof.

Picture if you will, your boss at work coming in every afternoon and saying. I don’t believe you have done anything today. Prove it!

Oh sure you say you have, and I know we say we should have faith that you are doing your job. But frankly I don’t know you. I don’t sit with you every moment of your day but I sign your pay check, so show me what you have done. Account every moment of your day for me and I will decide if you are worth believing in or not!

How long would you want to work there...?

Now picture this. Your parents questioning everything you say. Everything you do, every second of every day. Whenever you tell them what you have accomplished, they say prove it. Or better yet your partner in life. Never believing where you have been, what you have been doing or who you have been doing it with.

Would these relationships last long?....I THINK NOT!

I can say that with some conviction because I work in the world where I hear these things all the time.

I see the jobs go, the relationships fail, the families torn apart on an ongoing basis. So I am confident in my understanding that not many of us would tolerate this for an extended period of time.

Well the Universe, souls past before us, our guides are somewhat feeling the same way.

I know as a Clairvoyant I get tired of having to prove myself every step of the way, and I also know that because of my "chosen" profession it comes with the territory. Your guides know this too.

However, here is what is getting them in an uproar!

You know that you need air to breathe. Food to eat. Clothes to wear (outside of a nudist colony), money to pay the bills. You know that you require these things because you have been taught that you need them.
I know, here is a shocker.

There are people out there that do not eat, live in a bubble, don’t live on money etc. Not many I will give you but still. You at some point early on and through your growing up years where shown and told what all of this was.

We believe things without proof all of the time.

A guy dose not call a girl back for weeks and friends convince said girl that he is attracted to her but scared of commitment and she believes it.

Your boss tells you it is not you there are budget cuts and you believe it. You breathe every few seconds yet cannot see the air you are breathing.. You buy a drink at the bar and believe it is not watered down. You buy a car that will get 500 klcks to a tank and you believe it because the salesman said so.

Teacher tells you that your child has learning issues and you believe it because the teacher knows best. Again I could give a thousand things you believe without seeing proof, but the Universe; the people you have loved and lost want to take care of you. Do take care of you every moment of your life and you need to see it before you can believe it?.......Here is there question for you....what the H E double hockey sticks? Actually they are saying What the Fuck?...but the other one sounded better.

You meet a stranger and fall in love where does that come from....?
You get a job after an interview you think went poorly..?.just a run of luck...?
You get approved for a house you don’t think you can approve but absolutely love. Do you think the broker thought you were cute...?

Somehow there is always money when truly needed. You think of someone and the phone rings it is them...A baby grows in someone’s tummy and comes out perfect...You witness and accident right in front of you but you were not involved.... A parent cannot afford a surgery to save their child’s life and the money gets donated....Miracles happen around you every day and yet we wonder if those people we loved and loss are taking care of us.....???

This is what guides have to say.....

"We watch over you every second of every day. Take care of you and keep you from falling so far you can’t get up. We share with you all of the knowledge we have learnt. We keep you company when you are alone. We give you good dreams, and because you can’t see us. You don’t believe in us..."

"We give you signs to show you the right way, and you ignore it. Granted because you say it isn’t obvious enough...will a brick work? We are blamed when you loose control. You should have never taken the control in the first place. If you would have trusted us the lessons would not have been necessary. “

“Someone’s time was up and they came home to us and we are to blame. We didn’t write the contract. We didn’t make the choices. You want to do things your way then you want to blame us when you make the wrong decisions.”

“What more do we have to do for you to know we are hear? What more do we have to show you to know we will take care of you? What more can we do before you believe in us? How much more can we show that we are around? What do you want from us that we do not already give?”

“Life is not about us proving we are around. You have the choice to listen and follow or not believe and struggle. We will not judge you or stop caring because you don’t feel you need us, want us or believe in us. It is okay to be scared of us even though we will never hurt you. But stop using us as your scape goat. We are here.

We are watching. We are helping and you have to make a choice. If you believe you will see, not the other way around. Watch and listen and life will get easier.

Notice the signs and trust we are around and you will never feel along again. Accept our help, without blaming us and we will give more. Listen and we will speak. Hope and we will fulfill. Believe and you will grow.

If you were the ones past on and we were there would you not want us to believe in you? Trust you? Have faith in you? Believe in us and save your world. Religion is preached every day and followers are everywhere, there is no proof, only what you hold in your heart. We are in your heart. We are in your souls and we share your minds.

Love us as we love you and together we will prosper. We are not to blame we are to correct. We are not to hurt we are to give balance. We your loved ones who you miss, who you wish were still alive are still here. You just can’t see us, but give us a fair chance and you will feel us.”

I know one thing for absolute guarantee. I would not be here today if it wasn’t for being watched over. I have been beaten, alone, without, scared, lost, confused, torn, bullied, ridiculed, tortured, abandoned and hurt, no more or less than most but traumatized just the same. If it wasn’t for my soul family I would not be here. They love you, all of you. They are watching and they are here. All you have to do is stop fearing them and start rejoicing that you are not alone. Try something new. Live like you can do anything. Believe in what you cannot see. Hope and dream. Love without reason. Smile because you can and you will see too that you would not be here without them either.

I am not a preacher, nor a teacher. I am a survivor and without my soul family I would be nothing.

Love your life, it is yours the good the bad and the crazy. Try something new the worse thing to happen is it won’t work, but you will end up happier with the experience. Take a chance on something and reap the reward. The proof is around you every where.

So bodes the question. What more do they have to do in order for you to believe they are here and they will help you???????? L M L!

There is more to a reading than meets the eye!

2010-07-07T23:36:00.000-07:00

I am often asked why does someone go see a Psychic and to be honest the answer varies. Some just for a sense of relief. Some to gain some understanding. The odd one wants to hear what they want will happen. For the most part though just some hope and direction.

I am mot going to lie to you. I don't go to many psychics. Not because I don't want the help but because the psychic/healing world is a tuff nut to crack. You think competition in the workplace is hard in the real world? It hasn't got anything on the ego of the Meta physicals.

I am the best, No I am. You don't know how to read, I know how to read. Whatever psychic told you that is a quack. "Kjarlune Rae? Please she doesn't know shit!" I have heard and seen in all in the world I work very hard to not associate in.

I would love to tell you that we are all in this for the love of it, the shear joy of helping people. I would love to tell you that we all have the best intentions. That we all take so much pride in our jobs that we think of you before anything else. I would love to tell you this world is full of Rainbows and butterflies but alas, I would be lying.

Ego is a terrible thing. No matter who you are or what you do.
The truth is that a psychic or healer has the same chances of saving the world as a Dr. has of never seeing a patient die.

Psychics and Healers whether you believe in them or not should be held at a higher level of accountability. We are human yes, but like a Dr. you should be able to count on us. Depend on us to at least do our best. At least give our all.

Psychics and Healers are held to a higher level of accountability by the Universe. What we say and what we do is a measure on how our life goes. No one can guarantee you that what they say is 100% right but if you have found a psychic or healer that you want to check out make sure they live by AND IT HARM NONE!

Our job in the Metaphysical Holistic world is to support, understand and love un- conditionally. No matter who you are or where you come from. We are your safe zone. Or at least we better be.

A reading is more than what does your future hold. It is a place where you can gain answers to your life`s problem. A solution for what you keep tripping over. It is not about Ego or about being right. It is about being helpful. Whether it is that kick in the ass you desperately need but no one else will give,or that new perspective that makes every block of your life fall into place.

A reading is about finding solutions and road maps to get you on your chosen or contracted road. It is up to you what you will do with the information once you get it but we are the front line. If our ego, and opinions get in the way then we are leading you down a garden path and that is punishable by The Universe and Fate.

You are entitled to ask questions about your psychic or healers life because if they are living on the right side of The Universe, the blessings are every where around them.

What we do we get back is the most important thing to remember when seeing a healer. We are not witches, nor god. We cannot force or demand, we can only share. The life your psychic or healer has is a gift from their clients. Whether it be a happy home or money in the bank they didn`t get it alone. You the ones who trust us supplied and for that we should always hold onto humility and thankfulness.

A reading or healing can and will change your life if you and your healer allow it. We share everything that we are and support and understand you in every way that you don`t. The future cannot exist without some faith and belief and neither can we.

We take your life in our hands whether you realize it or not. We are the holders of answers if we are open enough to receive them. Not everyone is great with numbers, not everyone can help the elderly die and not everyone can heal and read but we are all born with gifts. All born with a purpose to full fill and a life contract to complete.

You don`t buy a car without checking into it. Don`t pick a healer or psychic without some knowledge because there is more to a reading or healing than meets the eye. Life change and life`s blessings are around us everywhere. If you allow it.

Thank you. Thank you for my life, thank you for your trust. Thank you for your faith. Please never question. Whether I know you or I don`t I love you too.

Become your OWN LIFE DESIGER!

2010-07-07T18:13:00.000-07:00

We all have dreams. We all have wants and we all have needs. It is easy to forget what our goals are and turn them into a day dream. Only to turn them into our never happening instead of look what I have done.

Accomplishment and making things happen is the purpose of life. Learn our lessons get past them and create an amazing life is the ultimate goal. When our head gets in the way life does not go according to plan.

Vision boards are a amazing way to keep the goals in focus but we either never do them, or hide them. Energy is what makes things happen and you should be proud and want to share every goal or desire you have.

So let’s change the cycle of dreaming and not following through.

A client came in today with the goal of opening her own business, like the rest of us, bills, kids and life get in the way. Other priorities hit and other needs take over.

I suggested to her and now suggest it to all of you, Create a 3d vision board or many, one for each big goal.

For her it is create the coffee shop on paper, color pain swatches, design ideas, fabric swatches for the chairs. Create the vision. Then put in a shadow box and display it! Share it with the world who walks through your house.

Not only a goal but a gorgeous unique piece of ART! Be proud of what you want. Share who you are. Have it out in the open, Become the artist of your life, make your home your temple of desires, share because it is who you are and you will never forget.

If you never forget you will create! It is that simple. What starts as a shadow box becomes reality! GUARANTEED!

LML

Become your own personal life DESIGNER! Get creative, and stop saying you can’t!

Never to late!

2010-07-05T22:58:00.000-07:00

Life has a tendency of getting in the way, or taking off into a direction you didn’t expect. Like having kids and not being able to fulfill your life long career goals because the food on the table became the priority.

Or taking on the good job and buying a home, meeting someone and making house instead of traveling the world and seeing what awaits you. No matter what the reason, or what the excuse it is not uncommon to feel like your life has slipped away without you reaching the big goal, accomplishing the big dream.

It is not unnatural to fall into the comfort zone of your life, whether happy or not, excited or not, what you want or not.

It is however your choice of whether you will grow old and be happy with the twists and winding road you have followed, or whether you will do what has to be done till the family can tend to themselves, and it is your turn.

It is never too late to go after a dream, no matter what your life has been or what trials you have had to face..

Stop blaming the world and start living.

Go back to school if that is the dream, borrow, or beg for the money it doesn’t matter make it happen.

Sell the house and travel the world, it is one year of your life you will never forget.

It is never to late to follow a dream, never to late to make it your life!

Truth/Myth of the Psychic

2010-07-05T12:23:00.000-07:00

Lack of knowledge leaves us unarmed. The sad truth to this statement is that we have been told or shown that so many things are a certain way that we have come to believe it, without merit or confirmation.

Coming from a religious background, or at least one when I was with my other family on summer holidays even I was left with a bitter taste in my mouth for psychics. I was raised with a belief system that left me with the understanding that a psychic is a fortune teller and that is a sin.

Not to mention and this might come as a surprise to some, but even someone as out there like myself could not possibly wrap my head around laying down some cards, or swirling your hand around a crystal ball like the movies, could come anywhere close to being legitimate. The truth is I still don’t believe that illusion is real.

The reality is that the “version” of what a “psychic” has been portrayed to be is totally and completely a load of crap and is not real. Of course that might explain why so many people try to bunk it.

The sad truth however is that being perceptive, being able to see things in a different light, being able to feel everything another person is feeling is very much a possibility and reality.

Anyone who has ever been in a relationship or had a family and knew when someone was coming home because they could feel them, or knew when they were unhappy or mad, or sad or confused without them saying a word can testify that it is a possibility. Seeing as how every one of you reading this have had those feelings once or twice in your life, I would have to say you personally can testify that it makes sense, if you think about it you could say it is a probability.

Think about this, if there is a remote possibility that God exists. That there is something past dying. That you do not just turn to dust and evaporate, with no reason for your existence at all. Then how does it not make sense that there are people that can feel, understand and communicate with what many would class as heaven.

Now take that a step further for just a moment with me, if there is more out there and that more is not restricted by their bodies, if the theory is correct that there is life after death, no more personal, If you had life after death, would you want to stay mute for all eternity? Have no one hear what you know? Share with no one your understandings from there? Not help the man kind you left?

Look at natural disaster; it is our nature, our need to help strangers we don’t know here on earth, if you were passed on would you not want to communicate with those you love? Help any way you can?

Not many people are going to say no here.

There are masterminds through out our entire history. Brilliant off the chart people with ideas that have revolutionized our world and it is a hard stretch to believe that a person’s brain has the ability to expand past the typical limits and find answers we are searching for?

See the problem is not whether it is possible, we all know or would have to come the conclusion that it is. The problem is just like Newton was classed as crazy, people have created a fictitious knowledge base about what a “psychic” is and what they can do.

It really is the movies when a gypsy runs her hands over the crystal ball and oooooooooooo tells you your future. It really is not true that we are witches and can cast a spell on you and it is not possible to MAKE things happen for someone else.

That is not a “psychic” and it is time to debunk the myths because knowledge is freedom.

Like any other type of work in this world there truly is phoney people trying to make a buck off of someone else’s needs. That cannot be surprising, financial institutions make money off of your hard work. Not a slam just reality. There are criminals everywhere, why wouldn’t there be fake psychics?

Just like it is not true that every Native American are alcoholics, not every psychic is a fraud and just like Native Americans get a bad wrap for the ones who don’t care and take advantage so do the real psychics.

Anyone can learn to become more aware, to broaden their mind capability just like believe it or not everyone with the same training can sing, sure for some it is easier than others.

The truth is that a “psychic” no matter what the form, Clairvoyant, Empathic, reader, seer, whatever starts from a place of unconditional love. We start with a sense of caring that reaches beyond, color, size, looks, surface.

When you truly care about someone you can easily see past the “exterior” what is shown and can see what you know. The real person, the inside workings, that make them who they are.

If you are not emotionally involved with that person, and this is for the record where the “psychic” part comes in, then it is not complicated to see where their road is headed.

Just like if you are not emotionally involved with the loved one who is sitting in heaven it is easier to communicate with them. There is no fear, love, cynicism, emotion that gets in the way of being able to hear them.

Have you not ever been somewhere and felt like you were not alone? Or had a feeling you should call someone or say something, maybe do something. We all do it, but unlike when you are involved a “psychic” or what I prefer “intuitive” does not have the fear to get in the way.

Don’t fool yourself, I cannot tell my future. I am no different than you I can hardly tell my present and my past hurts just as much as some of yours. An Intuitive is no different than anyone else.

When you get past the barrier of the emotion, it is easier to create a plan, find a solution and guide someone into a direction. “Psychic” is simply another form of how our mind works. Like everything else there is a little more to it but that is where people get the most lost.

It is time to break through the scepticism, time to gain the understanding because psychics are not going away. Our children are being born more intuitive. Our world needs help and being able to communicate with the people of our past will help us!

Isn’t that everyone is looking for? A little help.

The reason people go to us is not so that we can brain wash them, it is so we can help. Life takes over and as most know can get a little out of hand. You can go see a therapist and work through it on your own after years and years or you can go see someone that can get through the crap and give you the tools you need to get going, faster, with less pain and less confusion.

Psychics can be wrong, we are only human, but when you don’t follow the advice how can you get the result? Just like loosing weight there is NO MAGICK PILL!! Only tools, and with the right advice the tools are easy to use! A psychic simply makes it make sense!

There you have it, the truth about psychics, at least the easiest way to understand them. If you cannot wrap your mind around a mathematician or a scientist you are never going to fully wrap your mind around the brains potential.

It’s up to you what you believe. I cannot convince you nor sway you, all I can say is I am a “psychic” and I can guarantee there is nothing freaky or godly or evil about me or anyone else that genuinely cares enough to look into your future.

Like a dear friend of mine wrote : KJ is a friend to some, confidant to most and counsellor to others. But she's real, and has her own life to live.

Psychics/Clairvoyants/readers WHATEVER, is real, it is the gypsy costumes, the “ I channel arc angel Michael” “oooo I can save your life” “mystical misunderstandings” that is a load of crap! In my opinion…

Ring around the Rosy

2010-07-05T11:48:00.000-07:00

Ring around the rosy,
Pocket full of posy,
Husha, husha,
We all fall down.

Even our childhood games mimic where we are headed in life.

Cycles that continually repeat themselves. Growing up we have been taught to not stop, push ahead and accomplish your goals, what has come of this is the cycle.

Continually doing the same thing, hoping, no not even hoping worse than that, EXPECTING a different result.

Here is the thing. If you go around in circles, attracting yourself to the same thing/or same type of people just with different names, then even the childhood rhyme tells you that you are going to fall down!

We have the ability to try, something we are born with, but we must create the ability inside ourselves to walk away from what doesn’t work.

If you don’t then each time you go around in the circle the fall gets harder and more painful.

The secret is to try everything once, only hold onto what works. Let go of what doesn’t, and enjoy the road you have taken to get there.

Simple really, break the cycle, stop running around in circles, take the time to mentally digest what you have tried and what you have succeeded.

Give yourself and those around you the benefit of the doubt. Stupidity only comes into play when you continue doing the same thing. Stop the beat up and start the change!

It takes two to make a thing go right!

2010-07-05T00:21:00.000-07:00

We are all looking for that perfect partner. That one person who can show us what love is all about. The one you will always count on. Someone to share your bed and life with. Yet nothing ever seems to be good enough.

They work too much. Don't care enough about me. Don't understand where I am coming from. After 19 years of answering relationship questions in my office I could and am writing books all about it.

Here is the deal. Nothing is perfect if you don't allow it to be. If we have curly hair we want straight. Long want short. brown eyes want blue eyes. Single want a relationship. Married and no not always but wish you had other choices.

Whatever happened to loving the life your in? Making a relationship work because you love them. Having the love of your life is not like buying a car. You don't trade it in when too many miles get put on. As a matter of fact, the more miles, the more years, the better the relationship should be!

It is a choice to be unhappy when in love. It is a choice to not communicate the way you should. To let your love life become hallway sex, looking at each other saying Fuck You! Everything in our life is a choice and your relationship is no different.

Communication is the key! Most of us say we have that. But be honest how many of us think our partner should just know what is wrong. What is bothering us. What we need! Hello I am a clairvoyant and I still cannot read my husbands mind. Separate note: thank god. Like I can handle what is my head never name his.

Your partner cannot read your mind and if you need something or are feeling something for the love of god SPIT IT OUT! Tell them. Ask them. Give what you need to them so they can understand how good it feels to get it.

Don't expect that they won't get it, because your ex didn't, or because they didn't before. If they are not listening try a different way. What do you have to loose other than less lawyer bills?

Remember that they are their own person, with their own beliefs, their own dysfunctional upbringing and their own baggage. You have it too, and you want to be accepted for who you are so accept them!

Life is not nearly as complicated as we make it. Have some faith. They are not your past they are your present and your future. Have faith in them, love them through the good the bad and the ugly.

We get what we give. If we try to control everything it won't work. Assume they will just get it? they won't.

I say give some love to get some love, and back to the hallway sex. The only time hallways sex should be allowed is if your partner is ripping your clothes off and throwing you against the wall for traction. It takes less energy to make love than to fight. Less frustration to try to understand than to think you are always right.

If you don't trust them you shouldn't be with them. If you don't love them then the truth is you never really did! Life is simple, we make it complicated.

love and light

Kjarlune