Triggers who would have thought.

I tell people all the time that I am still learning and growing every day in my life too. It doesn't matter how much a person understands what is sitting on the other side. How the Universe works, what our soul families jobs are, a person can still get tripped up.

I have worked very hard over the last two decades to become not only a different person than I was growing up but also to learn what is required in our lives to manifest an amazing life. For the most part I have a pretty good understanding but yes even for me the odd "trigger" pops up leaving me to feel like I have learnt and achieved nothing.

I ask myself if anyone else has ever felt that and the reality is they must have. Not because I am special and people should fallow at all but because I have learnt the rule of thumb that if you feel it, millions of others do too.

I go through times in my life where I question everything. Wonder if I am on the right page, does what I am doing make any sense or for that matter any difference. IT is true, I go through the questions too but for the most part that is when I am feeling sorry for myself. Honesty needed in my opinion. However this weekend, well that wasn't what happened.

I have not seen my parents best friends in I would have to say 20 years. I was trying to calculate before I started writing and the last time I seen them was at my sisters wedding. I was sixteen and I am now Thirty Nine.

At 16 I was a wreck. Hell truth be told at every age I was a wreck but especially when I decided to throw any security out of the window and run away from home.

Needless to say the last time Gary and Cheryl seen me ( my moms and dads best friends) I was someone even I would not have wanted to know. I lied, talked all the time, felt like I had something to prove, all around annoying to say the least.

With the TV show filming and all of the successes that I have reached in the last 15 years, my mom and dad were pretty excited to share with them all about me. And well naturally I wanted to see people I have not seen in years. Who knew what it would do to me.

There is no exaggeration for me to tell you that the moment I walked into my parents house to see them, I became 16 again. Now that would be great if my ass tightened and my legs looked great again with a flat tummy, but nope. No instead I was a 16 year old punk ass teenager with my head screwed right up, stuck in Kjarlune Rae, Canada's Top Clairvoyants body. WHAT THE HELL!

Talk about taking the wind out of my sails. Even though I know that we can't guarantee we have gotten over everything in our lives I discovered that their is a big chunk of my past that still holds on.

I walked out of my parents house a half hour later and by the time I got home I was mad at myself, overwhelmed and in tears. How could I let something so minor become such a big deal. How could I let the emotions of a child come back to haunt me as a grown up. How did I let it happen.

Here is what I learnt. No matter how much growth you have done in your life. No matter how great you make your life taking one step forward at a time. Until you have been faced with something you do not realize what kind of work you might still need.

Life is a uphill struggle, I would love to tell you it isn't but I would be lying. I discovered again this weekend that even when your life is going amazingly things can still jump up and bite you. Triggers are still just that triggers and there is no way you can face them until you are in a position to notice them.

Don't misunderstand me life is also unbelievably amazing. It is everything you want it to be and then some if you allow it. That doesn't mean you stop learning. It doesn't mean you don't make mistakes. It means that the better you are doing with your life the easier it is to notice when you hit a bump in the road.

Feeling guilty or beating yourself up is a waist of time. It gets nothing accomplished other than making you feel like shit.

So when you find yourself in a situation that you would give anything to not be effected but you are, remember, you are only human, and every action and reaction you have stems from a line of triggers. When you notice, let the emotion go and work on the trigger.

Because this weekend I found out that I am still that little girl who gets overwhelmed and doesn't always find herself feeling safe and secure in who she is, but I am also a strong confident woman who lived through the pain and can come around the other side knowing she can do anything.

There is positive in anything and everything if you just allow yourself the opportunity to see it, live it and feel it.

LOVE MY LIFE. and best of all, they aren't my friends so at the end of the day. What do I care who they think I am? I know who I am and so do you, never give up on your dreams or let go of the fight because you get thrown down a little. That makes the future so much more appealing...

love my life.

All the single ladies! Somethings are just too good not to share.

This is going to be very personal for me. But sometimes you just gotta do something different to get a different result...*wink*

I have shared many times, how lucky I am at meeting and marrying my twin soul. I do not mention it to brag, honest to god even though I would about him any day.. I actually share about him because I believe that if I can show you what I say works the average person will have more faith in their life and because they will see what I never did before I met him. That twin souls do exist.

Because I am so blessed to have a lot of listeners and fans...something I still cannot wrap my head around. I have the opportunity to share with all of you single ladies that an amazing man really does exist, and I can say for a fact more than one. As I personally know a few....hundred....*grin* I should probably get to the point.

I hear women say they are looking for their twin soul every day, but they are impossible to find. I personally believe that we are either not really looking for that or we have no idea what that looks like.

I know some of the most amazing men, but the two that are the most important other than my kids to me is without question my husband, whom I adore. and my best Male friend.

Right now I want to talk about my best Male friend....

I have discovered over the years that men are looking for the exact same thing women are. They want to be loved just as much, wanted and needed just as much.

My best male friend is no exception to this rule. However, like you ladies it is hard to find that woman that can rock his world. Let's face it, with a best friend like Kjarlune Rae, looking for what will do??? Not even an option....lol...and not only because I am bossy, *grin* but also because he witnesses a great relationship every day with his sister, that would be me, and his close friend and brother...that would be my husband.

Like most of you he is looking in all the wrong places. Or just not noticing in all the right places, either way it breaks my heart because I hear women say they want perfect and for the right woman he is, but hasn't found her yet.

I feel this overwhelming need and I hope he does not get mad at me, *gulp* to share about a man I know so well.

We want a man who is kind, loyal, understanding, and supportive and he is. He is also sensitive, and gives of himself without conditions. He is a half time/full time father and on many occasion I refer to him for advice on how to deal with one of my kids because he is a without words can describe dad.

We want a man who can stand his own and he does, but he also stands beside you with respect and adoration, all the while making sure you know how he feels about you at all times. This is one quality I discovered from Brian, my husband, is one of the most important things in a relationship. They need to stand by you no matter what, not always tell you that you are right, because we aren't but even when you are wrong, they support and acknowledge your efforts. He, my friend, never leaves any room for doubt about how he feels about something, always with the respect to review and try to put himself in someone Else's shoes. He takes the time to learn everything about you, what you require.

Just an example he was shopping with a friend of ours the other day and was in a plus size store. He finds beauty in all woman however he takes the time to take care of himself and so is attracted to fit women. Anyways he put himself in larger women's shoes in his head for a while and decided that plus size clothing stores just don't get it. What bigger women need to feel sexier and better. Hello, talk about a blow the mind kind of conversation.

We want a man who can stand out from a crowd. Not because everyone is staring but because he is confident enough to be noticed. I have watched him talk to almost every walk of life, every type of person, standing tall and giving respect. Always being noticed even when he didn't know it. He always makes sure the people around him feel wanted and important. But stands his ground and agrees to disagree if it is not what he believes. I have watched him when attracted to a woman always have some sort of contact when out in public. I don't know about you but when my husband has his hand on my lower back or always touches me I feel like the most important woman in the world. Every woman should need this and my friend does it without even thinking.

He was raised by a single mom, I don't know if that matters to anyone else, but I have never met a man raised by a single mom that does not have unbelievable respect for the female raise. An amazing mom if the truth be told and he makes a point of sharing that with her any chance he gets. Sounds like a mamas boy doesn't it? It isn't though, Just healthy respect and admiration for a woman who sacrificed to make him a better man.

We love a sense of humor, man he makes me kill myself laughing all the time. He is pretty good and joining in with Brian to drive me insane too but let's be honest without that we ladies would have nothing to bitch about on a ongoing basis. LOL...

We want a mans man, who is comfortable in their sexuality. He rides a bike.......looks like a man that should not be messed with, until he smiles then you just know he is a softy. No question he fits the rugged that most women want.

We want someone who can take care of things. He owns his own home, can fix anything and can cook and does all of his own cleaning. Never has he showed up to see me without a tea from Timmy's and a huge hug.

Parties, not too much, cuddles, gives attention, loves without condition, always makes me feel safe and like I am important. ( I am very lucky, an amazing husband and a killer best male friend.) and he is alone. I don't get it.

I could truthfully write about him for hours because I know him well. What I don't understand is how he can be single. It probably looks like I am writing a woman wanted add and in part I suppose I am, because I just want to see him happy. But this is also about finding a way to get all the single ladies out their out of the belief system that great guys do exist. I don't want to see him with just anyone, she has to be spectacular. But he is such a good guy and should not be single.

I want to see everyone in this world with that perfect person, that one that completes you and makes you feel like you could climb the biggest mountain and succeed.

He tries so hard to show me that he is fine, that he is happy and for the most part I believe he is, but sometimes, not having that someone is killer on him and all of you. Especially when you see people happy and in love. I give him so much credit, it would drive me crazy and for him it never does, or at least he never shows it.

The truth is their is more than one great man out looking for his twin, there is many. Ladies give these men a chance they just might own a white horse.

If you are an amazing, fit, woman who is interested in meeting a man I adore I am willing to share my friend. He truly is beyond words, send me a message, I might hook you up with my best friend. Oh and ladies, trust me on this, he does not need me to set him up...he is very good looking. I am married, not dead....lol...*grin* Even my husband would have to concede, he is a good looking man!

A ginger, Love you R, but a good looking man. lol...

To my friend, I love you, you mean the world to me, I thank god, and my soul family every day for us crossing paths. She is out there, I promise, and I won't rest either till you find her. That my friend is a wedding, I am most looking forward too. The thought of sharing you when I have been so lucky, doesn't thrill me, but I still have my husband so I will make it through. I sure hope he doesn't get mad at me, because I am attaching pictures!!!!! In the next couple of days....


hugs single laides, KJ

It is never too late for New Beginnings!

It doesn't matter who we are. How well we know ourselves. How in tune we might be. Falling into the trap of being stagnant is a problem for everyone.Staying motivated and being motivated can take a lot out of a person.

Life can and unfortunately does get in the way. I know for me one thing leads to another and before I know it, six months and not one chapter written. A year and nothing has changed.

It would surprise some of you, I am sure, to know that most of the time, knowing what you need to do, or want to do is not actually the problem. The problem is taking it from the thought in your head to the reality of your world.

Just like most of you I have used the excuse of being too busy. I say excuse because, and this is the same for all of you. It is an excuse.

Sure life is busy, absolutely our kids get in the way, our life takes over, work drains us, extra hours, blah blah blah, but here is the deal. If we have time to go on Facebook, watch a TV show, soak in a tub, wash our cars, etc, then we have time to get what we want done, done!

The trouble is falling into the trap of not having the energy. I am so tired, I am not sleeping properly, I am feeling so blah, I have a hard time getting out of bed. We all feel it and when we do, there goes any energy.

So it then falls into, I will do it tomorrow, I will get my finances figured out tomorrow, I will write that letter tomorrow, I will look for that tomorrow. Tomorrow never comes. You have Yesterday and it is already gone so what you did cannot be taken back, and Today, which is what matters. Say tomorrow all you want but when you open your eyes it will be today.

So, why have I not expanded the business more? Gotten the writing done, had that much needed talk with my 16 year old, moved into the acreage, re organized my world, had some quality time with my husband????? Because I kept waiting for tomorrow.

You know what I have to say to that? No More DAMMIT! I am not waiting another day to get started on what I have wanted to work on for forever and either should you.

This is what we don't understand, we think we are too tired, think we do not have time, frankly we think way to damn much. The truth is getting some things done, makes you feel better, not procrastinating gives you more energy, more energy gets things done faster, and before you know it you are exactly where you want to be.

I would love to tell you it is as easy as getting our lazy asses up and moving but if that was the case, well we wouldn't procrastinate....

It takes more than that but the good side is that it isn't painful.

For me, I needed to look at what was causing me to procrastinate and the truth was it was having a home office. I have to be honest and actually say that having a home office was a great excuse. I have no doubt fear played a pretty big role here.

For most of us it is because we are stuck, afraid, need some push.

The reality is I have nothing to fear, and if I just concentrate on what I am wanting to do and not on the end result it can happen without me even registering it. Once things are where they are supposed to be well, we are human and have this great ability to adapt. SO I will adapt and so will you.

If we drop things down to the simple accomplishment of it then we can get it done.

So instead of dwelling and dealing in the fear I went with what I could handle. The home office.

Simple really, I moved my office. Moved my computer, all of my files, all of my working on projects.

As it turns out a persons energy really does start to get charged up when you make a change. My to do list has already dwindled, accomplishments are being made and I am feeling Fan-freaking-tastic.

Change your environment. If you have everything locked up in a room of the house you can avoid, move it to your kitchen table. It will drive you crazy and you will have to get it done. If you cannot get motivated at home, go find a great coffee shop or escape to get it done. No more excuses.

If you are feeling frumpy and not getting anything done, go change your hair, buy a new outfit and get on with it. You are your own worst enemy.

I have been in my new office since Friday, and this is what I have done. Affirmations DONE. Wall sense with KJ, created and DONE. Lip sense with KJ, created and DONE! Vlogging almost set up and done. Book, two new chapters DONE! Energy? OMG you have no idea, I am up in the morning, the MORNING??? if you knew me you would know the morning, anytime in the morning, is for sleeping. Or at least it was. The best part about all of this. My kids and my husband have seen me more. I have been able to have two birthday get tog ethers, nothing has suffered and everyone around me has gained.

The first trick is to change up the environment that has you in a slump, the second trick, no more excuses. Third get excited, fourth, do not even think about the fears, you will adapt. Five, take a look around because you will be happier and calmer.

It is never to late to start over, never to late to redo things, never too late to want more, never to late to make things happen. It is Never To Late for A New Beginning.


Love my life. Love yours.
KJ

What more can we do!

I hear everywhere. I don’t know if I believe in a soul family. I am not sure if there is something bigger out there than me. How do I know they will look after me?
What if they don’t give me what I ask? What if they listen to everyone but me? How do I know they are listening? What do I ask for? Can I count on them? Man I could list a thousand of questions I am asked on an ongoing basis, all with the intent of looking for proof that there is something bigger out there than us and its job is to look after us.

"I will believe it when I see it." That is one of my favourites.

Every day we do things in our lives. Say things are a certain way and all without seeing proof of it, but the one thing that is your constant, The Universe. Well now let’s sit down and show me some proof.

Picture if you will, your boss at work coming in every afternoon and saying. I don’t believe you have done anything today. Prove it!

Oh sure you say you have, and I know we say we should have faith that you are doing your job. But frankly I don’t know you. I don’t sit with you every moment of your day but I sign your pay check, so show me what you have done. Account every moment of your day for me and I will decide if you are worth believing in or not!

How long would you want to work there...?

Now picture this. Your parents questioning everything you say. Everything you do, every second of every day. Whenever you tell them what you have accomplished, they say prove it. Or better yet your partner in life. Never believing where you have been, what you have been doing or who you have been doing it with.

Would these relationships last long?....I THINK NOT!

I can say that with some conviction because I work in the world where I hear these things all the time.

I see the jobs go, the relationships fail, the families torn apart on an ongoing basis. So I am confident in my understanding that not many of us would tolerate this for an extended period of time.

Well the Universe, souls past before us, our guides are somewhat feeling the same way.

I know as a Clairvoyant I get tired of having to prove myself every step of the way, and I also know that because of my "chosen" profession it comes with the territory. Your guides know this too.

However, here is what is getting them in an uproar!

You know that you need air to breathe. Food to eat. Clothes to wear (outside of a nudist colony), money to pay the bills. You know that you require these things because you have been taught that you need them.
I know, here is a shocker.

There are people out there that do not eat, live in a bubble, don’t live on money etc. Not many I will give you but still. You at some point early on and through your growing up years where shown and told what all of this was.

We believe things without proof all of the time.

A guy dose not call a girl back for weeks and friends convince said girl that he is attracted to her but scared of commitment and she believes it.

Your boss tells you it is not you there are budget cuts and you believe it. You breathe every few seconds yet cannot see the air you are breathing.. You buy a drink at the bar and believe it is not watered down. You buy a car that will get 500 klcks to a tank and you believe it because the salesman said so.

Teacher tells you that your child has learning issues and you believe it because the teacher knows best. Again I could give a thousand things you believe without seeing proof, but the Universe; the people you have loved and lost want to take care of you. Do take care of you every moment of your life and you need to see it before you can believe it?.......Here is there question for you....what the H E double hockey sticks? Actually they are saying What the Fuck?...but the other one sounded better.

You meet a stranger and fall in love where does that come from....?
You get a job after an interview you think went poorly..?.just a run of luck...?
You get approved for a house you don’t think you can approve but absolutely love. Do you think the broker thought you were cute...?

Somehow there is always money when truly needed. You think of someone and the phone rings it is them...A baby grows in someone’s tummy and comes out perfect...You witness and accident right in front of you but you were not involved.... A parent cannot afford a surgery to save their child’s life and the money gets donated....Miracles happen around you every day and yet we wonder if those people we loved and loss are taking care of us.....???

This is what guides have to say.....

"We watch over you every second of every day. Take care of you and keep you from falling so far you can’t get up. We share with you all of the knowledge we have learnt. We keep you company when you are alone. We give you good dreams, and because you can’t see us. You don’t believe in us..."

"We give you signs to show you the right way, and you ignore it. Granted because you say it isn’t obvious enough...will a brick work? We are blamed when you loose control. You should have never taken the control in the first place. If you would have trusted us the lessons would not have been necessary. “

“Someone’s time was up and they came home to us and we are to blame. We didn’t write the contract. We didn’t make the choices. You want to do things your way then you want to blame us when you make the wrong decisions.”

“What more do we have to do for you to know we are hear? What more do we have to show you to know we will take care of you? What more can we do before you believe in us? How much more can we show that we are around? What do you want from us that we do not already give?”

“Life is not about us proving we are around. You have the choice to listen and follow or not believe and struggle. We will not judge you or stop caring because you don’t feel you need us, want us or believe in us. It is okay to be scared of us even though we will never hurt you. But stop using us as your scape goat. We are here.

We are watching. We are helping and you have to make a choice. If you believe you will see, not the other way around. Watch and listen and life will get easier.

Notice the signs and trust we are around and you will never feel along again. Accept our help, without blaming us and we will give more. Listen and we will speak. Hope and we will fulfill. Believe and you will grow.

If you were the ones past on and we were there would you not want us to believe in you? Trust you? Have faith in you? Believe in us and save your world. Religion is preached every day and followers are everywhere, there is no proof, only what you hold in your heart. We are in your heart. We are in your souls and we share your minds.

Love us as we love you and together we will prosper. We are not to blame we are to correct. We are not to hurt we are to give balance. We your loved ones who you miss, who you wish were still alive are still here. You just can’t see us, but give us a fair chance and you will feel us.”


I know one thing for absolute guarantee. I would not be here today if it wasn’t for being watched over. I have been beaten, alone, without, scared, lost, confused, torn, bullied, ridiculed, tortured, abandoned and hurt, no more or less than most but traumatized just the same. If it wasn’t for my soul family I would not be here. They love you, all of you. They are watching and they are here. All you have to do is stop fearing them and start rejoicing that you are not alone. Try something new. Live like you can do anything. Believe in what you cannot see. Hope and dream. Love without reason. Smile because you can and you will see too that you would not be here without them either.

I am not a preacher, nor a teacher. I am a survivor and without my soul family I would be nothing.

Love your life, it is yours the good the bad and the crazy. Try something new the worse thing to happen is it won’t work, but you will end up happier with the experience. Take a chance on something and reap the reward. The proof is around you every where.

So bodes the question. What more do they have to do in order for you to believe they are here and they will help you???????? L M L!

There is more to a reading than meets the eye!

I am often asked why does someone go see a Psychic and to be honest the answer varies. Some just for a sense of relief. Some to gain some understanding. The odd one wants to hear what they want will happen. For the most part though just some hope and direction.

I am mot going to lie to you. I don't go to many psychics. Not because I don't want the help but because the psychic/healing world is a tuff nut to crack. You think competition in the workplace is hard in the real world? It hasn't got anything on the ego of the Meta physicals.

I am the best, No I am. You don't know how to read, I know how to read. Whatever psychic told you that is a quack. "Kjarlune Rae? Please she doesn't know shit!" I have heard and seen in all in the world I work very hard to not associate in.

I would love to tell you that we are all in this for the love of it, the shear joy of helping people. I would love to tell you that we all have the best intentions. That we all take so much pride in our jobs that we think of you before anything else. I would love to tell you this world is full of Rainbows and butterflies but alas, I would be lying.

Ego is a terrible thing. No matter who you are or what you do.
The truth is that a psychic or healer has the same chances of saving the world as a Dr. has of never seeing a patient die.

Psychics and Healers whether you believe in them or not should be held at a higher level of accountability. We are human yes, but like a Dr. you should be able to count on us. Depend on us to at least do our best. At least give our all.

Psychics and Healers are held to a higher level of accountability by the Universe. What we say and what we do is a measure on how our life goes. No one can guarantee you that what they say is 100% right but if you have found a psychic or healer that you want to check out make sure they live by AND IT HARM NONE!

Our job in the Metaphysical Holistic world is to support, understand and love un- conditionally. No matter who you are or where you come from. We are your safe zone. Or at least we better be.

A reading is more than what does your future hold. It is a place where you can gain answers to your life`s problem. A solution for what you keep tripping over. It is not about Ego or about being right. It is about being helpful. Whether it is that kick in the ass you desperately need but no one else will give,or that new perspective that makes every block of your life fall into place.

A reading is about finding solutions and road maps to get you on your chosen or contracted road. It is up to you what you will do with the information once you get it but we are the front line. If our ego, and opinions get in the way then we are leading you down a garden path and that is punishable by The Universe and Fate.

You are entitled to ask questions about your psychic or healers life because if they are living on the right side of The Universe, the blessings are every where around them.

What we do we get back is the most important thing to remember when seeing a healer. We are not witches, nor god. We cannot force or demand, we can only share. The life your psychic or healer has is a gift from their clients. Whether it be a happy home or money in the bank they didn`t get it alone. You the ones who trust us supplied and for that we should always hold onto humility and thankfulness.

A reading or healing can and will change your life if you and your healer allow it. We share everything that we are and support and understand you in every way that you don`t. The future cannot exist without some faith and belief and neither can we.

We take your life in our hands whether you realize it or not. We are the holders of answers if we are open enough to receive them. Not everyone is great with numbers, not everyone can help the elderly die and not everyone can heal and read but we are all born with gifts. All born with a purpose to full fill and a life contract to complete.

You don`t buy a car without checking into it. Don`t pick a healer or psychic without some knowledge because there is more to a reading or healing than meets the eye. Life change and life`s blessings are around us everywhere. If you allow it.

Thank you. Thank you for my life, thank you for your trust. Thank you for your faith. Please never question. Whether I know you or I don`t I love you too.

Become your OWN LIFE DESIGER!

We all have dreams. We all have wants and we all have needs. It is easy to forget what our goals are and turn them into a day dream. Only to turn them into our never happening instead of look what I have done.

Accomplishment and making things happen is the purpose of life. Learn our lessons get past them and create an amazing life is the ultimate goal. When our head gets in the way life does not go according to plan.

Vision boards are a amazing way to keep the goals in focus but we either never do them, or hide them. Energy is what makes things happen and you should be proud and want to share every goal or desire you have.

So let’s change the cycle of dreaming and not following through.

A client came in today with the goal of opening her own business, like the rest of us, bills, kids and life get in the way. Other priorities hit and other needs take over.

I suggested to her and now suggest it to all of you, Create a 3d vision board or many, one for each big goal.

For her it is create the coffee shop on paper, color pain swatches, design ideas, fabric swatches for the chairs. Create the vision. Then put in a shadow box and display it! Share it with the world who walks through your house.

Not only a goal but a gorgeous unique piece of ART! Be proud of what you want. Share who you are. Have it out in the open, Become the artist of your life, make your home your temple of desires, share because it is who you are and you will never forget.

If you never forget you will create! It is that simple. What starts as a shadow box becomes reality! GUARANTEED!

LML

Become your own personal life DESIGNER! Get creative, and stop saying you can’t!

Never to late!

Life has a tendency of getting in the way, or taking off into a direction you didn’t expect. Like having kids and not being able to fulfill your life long career goals because the food on the table became the priority.

Or taking on the good job and buying a home, meeting someone and making house instead of traveling the world and seeing what awaits you. No matter what the reason, or what the excuse it is not uncommon to feel like your life has slipped away without you reaching the big goal, accomplishing the big dream.

It is not unnatural to fall into the comfort zone of your life, whether happy or not, excited or not, what you want or not.

It is however your choice of whether you will grow old and be happy with the twists and winding road you have followed, or whether you will do what has to be done till the family can tend to themselves, and it is your turn.

It is never too late to go after a dream, no matter what your life has been or what trials you have had to face..

Stop blaming the world and start living.

Go back to school if that is the dream, borrow, or beg for the money it doesn’t matter make it happen.

Sell the house and travel the world, it is one year of your life you will never forget.

It is never to late to follow a dream, never to late to make it your life!