It doesn't matter who we are. How well we know ourselves. How in tune we might be. Falling into the trap of being stagnant is a problem for everyone.Staying motivated and being motivated can take a lot out of a person.
Life can and unfortunately does get in the way. I know for me one thing leads to another and before I know it, six months and not one chapter written. A year and nothing has changed.
It would surprise some of you, I am sure, to know that most of the time, knowing what you need to do, or want to do is not actually the problem. The problem is taking it from the thought in your head to the reality of your world.
Just like most of you I have used the excuse of being too busy. I say excuse because, and this is the same for all of you. It is an excuse.
Sure life is busy, absolutely our kids get in the way, our life takes over, work drains us, extra hours, blah blah blah, but here is the deal. If we have time to go on Facebook, watch a TV show, soak in a tub, wash our cars, etc, then we have time to get what we want done, done!
The trouble is falling into the trap of not having the energy. I am so tired, I am not sleeping properly, I am feeling so blah, I have a hard time getting out of bed. We all feel it and when we do, there goes any energy.
So it then falls into, I will do it tomorrow, I will get my finances figured out tomorrow, I will write that letter tomorrow, I will look for that tomorrow. Tomorrow never comes. You have Yesterday and it is already gone so what you did cannot be taken back, and Today, which is what matters. Say tomorrow all you want but when you open your eyes it will be today.
So, why have I not expanded the business more? Gotten the writing done, had that much needed talk with my 16 year old, moved into the acreage, re organized my world, had some quality time with my husband????? Because I kept waiting for tomorrow.
You know what I have to say to that? No More DAMMIT! I am not waiting another day to get started on what I have wanted to work on for forever and either should you.
This is what we don't understand, we think we are too tired, think we do not have time, frankly we think way to damn much. The truth is getting some things done, makes you feel better, not procrastinating gives you more energy, more energy gets things done faster, and before you know it you are exactly where you want to be.
I would love to tell you it is as easy as getting our lazy asses up and moving but if that was the case, well we wouldn't procrastinate....
It takes more than that but the good side is that it isn't painful.
For me, I needed to look at what was causing me to procrastinate and the truth was it was having a home office. I have to be honest and actually say that having a home office was a great excuse. I have no doubt fear played a pretty big role here.
For most of us it is because we are stuck, afraid, need some push.
The reality is I have nothing to fear, and if I just concentrate on what I am wanting to do and not on the end result it can happen without me even registering it. Once things are where they are supposed to be well, we are human and have this great ability to adapt. SO I will adapt and so will you.
If we drop things down to the simple accomplishment of it then we can get it done.
So instead of dwelling and dealing in the fear I went with what I could handle. The home office.
Simple really, I moved my office. Moved my computer, all of my files, all of my working on projects.
As it turns out a persons energy really does start to get charged up when you make a change. My to do list has already dwindled, accomplishments are being made and I am feeling Fan-freaking-tastic.
Change your environment. If you have everything locked up in a room of the house you can avoid, move it to your kitchen table. It will drive you crazy and you will have to get it done. If you cannot get motivated at home, go find a great coffee shop or escape to get it done. No more excuses.
If you are feeling frumpy and not getting anything done, go change your hair, buy a new outfit and get on with it. You are your own worst enemy.
I have been in my new office since Friday, and this is what I have done. Affirmations DONE. Wall sense with KJ, created and DONE. Lip sense with KJ, created and DONE! Vlogging almost set up and done. Book, two new chapters DONE! Energy? OMG you have no idea, I am up in the morning, the MORNING??? if you knew me you would know the morning, anytime in the morning, is for sleeping. Or at least it was. The best part about all of this. My kids and my husband have seen me more. I have been able to have two birthday get tog ethers, nothing has suffered and everyone around me has gained.
The first trick is to change up the environment that has you in a slump, the second trick, no more excuses. Third get excited, fourth, do not even think about the fears, you will adapt. Five, take a look around because you will be happier and calmer.
It is never to late to start over, never to late to redo things, never too late to want more, never to late to make things happen. It is Never To Late for A New Beginning.
Love my life. Love yours.
KJ
