Oh what a day!

Oh what a day!

I am sure there is more important things to do right now than hear about my day, but it was the worst. Most amazing day I have had in a long time. Being so close to Christmas I feel like it all happened for a reason and was life altering for me. Isn’t at the end of the day that a big part of the Christmas season. It was more a day of forgiveness for me if that makes any sense and it is also a day I feel the need to share.

I have been suffering for over a week now with the tremendous back pain. Over the last 2 days I have been in so much pain I have barely been able to walk and have not been able to work. A stress this close to the season not wanting to let down any clients.

Anyways, I went to a Chiropractor for the first time in my life yesterday and today it seemed believe it or not worse. Scary as I have never been to one before.

Today the day before all my family traditions start. Pie making, food preparing, shopping for food, making sure all the stocking were done being stuffed, you know all the last minute holy shit Christmas moments.

None of this really matters other than to tell you that hardly being able to walk and lots of shopping to do left me with one option. A shopping scooter throughout Wal-Mart. Some maybe thinking what is the problem, so let me explain. I am 39 years old, 350 pounds. I cannot believe I just wrote that….. What would you be thinking looking at a fat woman riding around in a scooter? Esp. middle aged….omg….fat person……holy shit…….

You would be thinking the same thing as I am not proud to say I would be thinking. Wow too fat to walk. Get some exercise that is gross. I am just being honest when I respond this way so no point taking it the wrong way.

Talk about a low moment in my life. I admit that I already know I have weight to loose, but to be that exposed is a very difficult thing to face. Needless to say if you would have seen me today with my head dropped low and my eyes looking at the ground, the isles, anywhere but people. Not really something most could imagine by someone as opinionated and outspokenly confident as I come across to be.

My husband I will say and my daughter Kailyn made it so much better for because the support was out of this world. Kailyn never left my side, never faltered for a minute. Looked at everyone in the eye and said Merry Christmas. I am so proud of her. Brian was so amazing too right with me the whole time, watching people, almost daring them to judge his wife. I am very lucky.

I should also say rather emotional and tense lately as I have recently quit smoking, or at least so far. I believe in an hour by an hour day by day thing here.

As I am scooting through out the store, at my lowest in a very long time, it hits my like a ton of bricks.

I did this to myself. We all do it to ourselves. Nobody has forced me to eat in the last 17 years. Plenty of time to get past that. Nobody stops me from eating properly and loosing weight but me. So I put myself here. I did this.

I have allowed myself to be in bad spots before and I have learnt to get past it. Learnt to grow and become stronger. My confidence started to grow as my acceptance did.

It is funny but when you take the time to realize why you are responsible for where your life is in every aspect. You actually get a feeling almost like you are being freed from that torment you have been living through.

I have dealt with way worse than this, and I have gotten over it, out of it, way past it. The only thing stopping my weight loss is me, the only thing griping out not smoking is my head and the only thing standing in the way of the life I want is ME!

Today became the worst/best day I have had in a long time. I no longer feel sorry for myself and that is how it works. Accept the responsibility is the only way to start.

So this for me is the best Christmas present ever and because of instant results. My back is better than it has been in days. I am sitting up on my bed typing. No cane, No feeling like I can’t move. The law of attraction, manifestation is an amazing thing. So well you are dreaming of sugar plums and lolly pops. I am going to be dreaming about Victoria secret outfits that fit. I will probably dream about my husband and Kailyn too, because lucky for me I manifested them too.

Love my life. Merry Christmas everyone. 

The Ultimate Christmas present kids will never forget!

So in the last post, it was all about tis the season to learn to not stress.....Make family your greatest present, and the feedback says we get it.

I was having my late coffee night with my best friend Rex, last night, it was Monday after all. Not sure I thought that one through completely as I woke up to pounding being done in my pool room. Perhaps I should remember when my husband says they are coming to replace the felt on the table that this would mean not to go to bed really late in the future, oh well live and learn.

While sitting talking about everything and anything like we do on our coffee nights the topic of presents, saving some money and giving the kids what they will care about came up.

I thought back to when I was growing up, I took a moment and thought about what would have meant the most to me, and the truth is it would have been that my parents took time to notice me. Took the time to know me enough that their present would show me they know my good things and my not so good.

When I was growing up I would make coupon books for my parents. Coupons that they could use to get me to do things I would normally complain about without any issues. I did it because I couldn't afford to buy them anything and I wanted them to have something.

It hit me, what a great idea!

A coupon book that shows the kids you pay attention.

Here are some of the ideas I came up with....

Remember to think back to when you were a kid, what kind of things would you want to get for free?

1) Get out of shit. This entitles ______________________ to use this coupon right before Mom or Dad are going to start yelling and screaming. You will get out of trouble without punishment on  certain conditions. You not break the law, do not break _________ (used your prize position.)

2) Mom or Dad will do your chores for the day. ( Needs to be a day off as mom and dad might be a little busy paying the mortgage,)

3) Skip school for the day. (we need days off work and if you say that you have never in your life called in sick when you weren't, I might have to call bull)

4) kick dads ass at video games all day. ( let them show us what they can do)

5) sleep in as late as I want card. Must be presented the night before, only to be used during holidays or weekend. Can go with with skip school day.

6) Teach dad to skateboard.

7) Mom does the homework for one subject for one day.

8) get the day with the parents. if the parents have plans the kids can use this coupon to make you cancel your plans and spend the day with them watching movies.

9) family game night with McDonald's.

10) trade roles for the day. You are the parent and I am the kid.... (think about how much fun they would have with this one... It is one day.....)

I could keep going here but the fun is making it to suit your kids, or your spouse....You can even laminate them and make them trading cards if you have more than one kid.... wrap it up in a box and your kids will love it....The great part is so will you, because when they use the coupons, you will know what they need. It will give you a chance to turn things into a team family.

Get creative, show the ones you love that giving the gift of you is way better than what you could buy.....


Have some fun this Christmas and show the family you love them........

I will post some picks of my trading cards as I make them...

Kjarlune

Tis the season to be stressed out....Fa la la la la la la la la

Christmas is the most stressful time of the year. My director actually made me tired last night when he described his Christmas, they run around literally from morning to night, back, forth, back, forth. Non stop and that does not even begin to describe the stress most of us feel while having to somehow someway come up with extra money for presents.

In this day and age not even presents, man the TV is showing a good parent buys their kids a big screen TV new lap top and an Iphone. It has all gotten out of hand, and we have let it happen.

Now don't misunderstand me, us business owners have a job to do in December. Being totally honest that job is to sell more. Christmas is the best time of the year for shopping. There are sales everywhere you look, specials all over the place, yet the stress is still sitting weighing heavy on us, to out due, make sure, and supply a Christmas for those that we love.

In the last two weeks I have heard more tension and stress about our coming yule tide cheer than I have heard any other year. Heck even my house has had some un needed stress and worry about Santa coming.

Have we lost the point of Christmas all together? It isn't about what is under the tree, I know everyone says that, but if it was really what everyone felt then where is the stress coming from?

I cannot say I am any different than anyone else, Christmas has been my time of year every year to spoil my kids...Okay who am I kidding everyday has been my time of year to spoil my kids. The more I have the more I want them to have, but we are making a mistake.

We are falling out of love with a holiday that is about tradition, and snuggling with our loved ones. A nice dinner a spot of eggnog and rum, laughing and loving the people we have in our lives.

We have fallen into the trap of caring whats under the tree, going into debt, stressing out beyond what most of us can handle. and it is time to stop.

Sure the kids want the new xbox, the phones, the crap but at the end of the day, they don't need it. What we all need is each other, what our kids needs is some special time, a tradition they can count on, a time of the year that they don't have to have a relationship with their parents in the hallways while we say love you heading to work, or did you get your homework done while trying to throw some supper together so that you can finish the work you brought home. Trust me in five years they are not going to remember what they got, only what the day was like.

They ask for the xbox because they can but what they really want is us. What we all really want for Christmas is love, some family time, a great afternoon nap while smelling the turkey cooking.

Stop stressing and start enjoying. If the money is tight, buy some inexpensive family games and attach a note to it that says once a week is family night. Give them the gift of love, a letter telling them what they mean to you, what sharing the last year with them has done for you.

Make Christmas the time of love not stress. Have a friend over for dinner, make a coupon book that gives the gift of you. Lord knows my kids would love a week of their choice off from doing chores, now that's a gift.

Get back to the reason for the season, love, friends, family and some much needed time off.

Trust me when I tell you they are not going to love those great big presents enough to except you working overtime for 6 months to pay them off.

Give the people you love the greatest gift of all, give them you.

We are all going through difficult times, money is tight for everyone. Adults don't need gifts they need love. Kids don't need expensive they need their parents. Be thankful feel blessed for the warm house, the great Christmas dinner.

I normally go to extreme at Christmas, I am not even coming close to lying when I say it is normally a 10-15 thousand dollar touch for me, but you know what? Not this year. That DJ hero my daughter needed so bad last year has not been touched in months, those books, they have all been read and now my 10 year old is bored, I can't remember which piece of jewelery my husband got me last year. Oh wait yes I can, he got me a ring I love but never wear.

The stress is not worth it. The worrying is not worth it.. This is the first year in 20 that  I am not stressing, there will be two presents under the tree for every child, Santa's and their letters. Nope this year is about what my kids need most. They need me, they need Brian and they need to know we love them, believe it or not what we spend on them doesn't show that.

That new phone is just going to get them into trouble, the new PlayStation a reason to not talk to their parents, and no one needs a lulu lemon sweatshirt.

The truth is we have all screwed up and it is time to change it. For the first time I am excited about Christmas, our special ornaments on the tree, that wish when the angel gets lit, gingerbread molasses cookies. Lazy boy subs, with hot chocolate and peppermint schnapps on Christmas eve.

Kailyn while watching Christmas movies, whispering to Amanda's belly how much grandma loves Hailey. My kids moving home so I can enjoy my grand baby full time. The tears and hugs when they read their Christmas letters. Cuddling with my husband while watching the lights on the tree dance. Thanking god for being so blessed.

I am looking forward to a couple of days off with my family. Toni coming for Christmas, Nadia coming for supper. Rex and my nephews sharing the day with me. My mom and dad coming to laugh and enjoy with us. I am looking forward to Christmas, the real meaning, not a gift. They don't really matter.

We are all so blessed this year and that includes being blessed about being broke. The best thing that can happen is not having money for Christmas because then you can see what it is really about.

To my family, I am the luckiest mom, wife, sister, daughter in the world, the only gift that could ever matter is the gift of each of you in my life.

So what does this psychic want for Christmas???  Santa's already been and he left me love.

Enjoy the holiday, strop stressing and love the life you are living,..


Love My Life Kjarlune Rae.

Jump the gun!

It does not matter what is happening in our lives. You can be guaranteed that it is worse or better because of our emotions.

Just today alone I have two appointments where my clients have actually known the direction their life is going, the reality of what is really happening in their lives, yet their emotion got in the way. Convincing them of the opposite.

There is always at least two sides to everything going on in your life. The reality and what your emotion says it is.

How many times do we get into stupid arguments with our spouse because we "misunderstood" what they were trying to say. Or didn't pay attention to the whole situation and instead just jumped the gun.

Issues at work because we assumed, or even worse. Convincing ourselves that someone is mad at us, that something isn't right, even though you have no proof of that what so ever!

The claim is that we spend too much time in our heads, but maybe the truth is we spend too much time in our emotions. In our poor poor pitiful me.

Creating stress over things that are not worth stressing about and if we could just take a second and pull our heads out of our own butts, we would know that. We would understand and know that things are not as they seem.

The reality is things are never as they seem. You create the struggles in your life even when you don't know you are.

Manifestation is very simple to do, everyone of us do it everyday of our lives. Most of the time it is because we are jumping the gun. We are convincing ourselves things are going to be a certain way. It is just as easy to have life go right as it to have it go wrong, but what is the first thing you think about? The bad, the complicated, the difficult.

We are such complicated creatures in such a simple world. It is time to take the wax out of our ears, pay attention to what is really happening. What is really supposed to be happening, what is really meant to be.

If it isn't broken stop trying to fix it and if you are not messed up stop telling yourself that you are.

It is simple, no more jumping the gun and start paying attention to reality. In order for something to be we have to believe in it. It cannot happen unless you believe it can

When you can't believe, can't understand or officially need a head removal from butt kicking call me, the rest of the time start believing and make it happen.

love
KJ

ASK KJ: Dreams are reality just waiting to happen

ASK KJ: Dreams are reality just waiting to happen: "Life is about living. It isn’t about sitting back and waiting for things to happen. It is about moving forward taking steps, getting ahead, ..."

Dreams are reality just waiting to happen

Life is about living. It isn’t about sitting back and waiting for things to happen. It is about moving forward taking steps, getting ahead, following a dream. See the secret is that it would not be a dream if you could not have it.

There is a big difference between fantasy and dreams. A fantasy is a way to escape from life, never going to be a reality.


A genie in a bottle, with three wishes, and you can have anything.


A fantasy is your mind's way of taking a break from the real world. Because you are unhappy with something, or because you do not feel like you can go after your dream.

A dream is an idea you have not yet brought forward to be a part of your life. A dream is a reality you have not yet figured out you can do. Not yet given yourself the credit to believe in.

We make the mistake of being scared to take a chance, when, in reality, we take chances every day. Fear is what is stopping you from getting the life you want. Convince yourself of whatever you can but at the end of the day you are scared. We all are! It doesn’t matter how many thousands of people I see, it comes down to the same thing. We are scared, scared to fail, and scared to succeed.

The problem is we are looking at it wrong. Why are we scared? Why fear? It cannot be because you can never do it, until you try you don’t know that. It cannot be because you have seen it a thousand times, and it hasn’t worked, not one of us have the same dreams. It also can’t be because we think that people can’t have it all, we all know of at least one person that does.

There are people out there that are living their dreams. I am one of them, so I know this to be a fact. We are unfair to ourselves when we don’t take chances what is the worse thing that will happen? You will discover it isn’t what you want. At the end of the day it doesn’t matter. Spend your life doing the same thing and being unhappy or spending your life trying things and learning and growing. What sounds better to you?

We even try to tell ourselves that it is because we don’t know what we want, or we don’t know how, but it isn’t true. We just get stuck in our own heads. We tell ourselves it isn’t possible. We tell ourselves it is too hard.

Life is like buying a house. The first time is scary. What if I can’t afford it, what if I don’t like it, what if?

If you want it, you will succeed in paying for it, and you will like it. This is the same with life!


Too many of us have given up before we even try.
If you need the help figuring out how to live your dream go see someone to help. If you don’t believe you can do it look back at all the things you have done. If you think you don’t deserve it ask yourself why. But for the love of all that is worth it, trying means success.

Doing will give you the energy to do more. Living will make your world and yourself worth it. You have nothing to lose. If you are not happy with your life now, changing it is your only option.

It is my life dammit!

As kids we are taught that if we take the blame for something we did wrong, we get in trouble. I know I always say to my kids if you tell the truth you will get in less trouble. But the reality is we don't want to get in trouble at all period.

This is no different as a adult. For this reason we find it very difficult to take the responsibility for our actions, our lives, and our mistakes/lessons.

It seems so easy to notice when others aren't doing it right but when it comes to ourselves well let's face it, things have not changed and that not me kid that drove your parents crazy still lives with you. Little bastard still creates havoc in your life, and no matter how hard you try you just cannot get right of him.

Did you catch the sarcasm here?!?!? It is easy to notice when someone else is in the wrong but when do you take the time to notice you are? Instead of blaming situations, exes, family, everyone or anything else you can, it is time to look in the mirror.

Like I said we have been taught that this will get you into trouble but the truth is, being accountable and accepting what you have done wrong or right actually just means you are human. If we don't learn to accept and learn where we played a role in what went wrong, or what goes wrong then nothing can change. If it isn't because of us then we continue to do the same things, hoping for a different result.

So here is the deal we are not 5 anymore, and the only person our choices really effect for the rest of our lives is us. It is your life and if it is not going the way you want, it is you not allowing it. It is you not changing it and it is you not taking accountability for your actions.

What do I mean?

Yes I am a former abused wife and yes he was brutal. But I knew that and I still got married. (Hello DUH!) and worse than that I knew it and still pushed his buttons. So yes he beat me, but I also pushed him. I also felt that is what I deserved or I would have never allowed it to happen. So poor me doesn't work. Dumb ass seems an appropriate fit, Don't you think?!?!?!?

You have to treat yourself the way you want everyone else to treat you and you have to treat everyone else the way you want to be treated. You are the front line my lovelies, so if you can't see where you screwed up or what you did that you could have done differently then no one else is going to see they should treat you better either.

I am a far freer happier person knowing that I am not perfect. No one is, and the more I realize where I am needing some work the easier it is to work on. So it is your life dammit, stop blaming everything including the weather for why it isn't the way you want it. You will be happy that you did.

Love hugs, and the slap that was needed

Kjarlune Rae

Triggers who would have thought.

I tell people all the time that I am still learning and growing every day in my life too. It doesn't matter how much a person understands what is sitting on the other side. How the Universe works, what our soul families jobs are, a person can still get tripped up.

I have worked very hard over the last two decades to become not only a different person than I was growing up but also to learn what is required in our lives to manifest an amazing life. For the most part I have a pretty good understanding but yes even for me the odd "trigger" pops up leaving me to feel like I have learnt and achieved nothing.

I ask myself if anyone else has ever felt that and the reality is they must have. Not because I am special and people should fallow at all but because I have learnt the rule of thumb that if you feel it, millions of others do too.

I go through times in my life where I question everything. Wonder if I am on the right page, does what I am doing make any sense or for that matter any difference. IT is true, I go through the questions too but for the most part that is when I am feeling sorry for myself. Honesty needed in my opinion. However this weekend, well that wasn't what happened.

I have not seen my parents best friends in I would have to say 20 years. I was trying to calculate before I started writing and the last time I seen them was at my sisters wedding. I was sixteen and I am now Thirty Nine.

At 16 I was a wreck. Hell truth be told at every age I was a wreck but especially when I decided to throw any security out of the window and run away from home.

Needless to say the last time Gary and Cheryl seen me ( my moms and dads best friends) I was someone even I would not have wanted to know. I lied, talked all the time, felt like I had something to prove, all around annoying to say the least.

With the TV show filming and all of the successes that I have reached in the last 15 years, my mom and dad were pretty excited to share with them all about me. And well naturally I wanted to see people I have not seen in years. Who knew what it would do to me.

There is no exaggeration for me to tell you that the moment I walked into my parents house to see them, I became 16 again. Now that would be great if my ass tightened and my legs looked great again with a flat tummy, but nope. No instead I was a 16 year old punk ass teenager with my head screwed right up, stuck in Kjarlune Rae, Canada's Top Clairvoyants body. WHAT THE HELL!

Talk about taking the wind out of my sails. Even though I know that we can't guarantee we have gotten over everything in our lives I discovered that their is a big chunk of my past that still holds on.

I walked out of my parents house a half hour later and by the time I got home I was mad at myself, overwhelmed and in tears. How could I let something so minor become such a big deal. How could I let the emotions of a child come back to haunt me as a grown up. How did I let it happen.

Here is what I learnt. No matter how much growth you have done in your life. No matter how great you make your life taking one step forward at a time. Until you have been faced with something you do not realize what kind of work you might still need.

Life is a uphill struggle, I would love to tell you it isn't but I would be lying. I discovered again this weekend that even when your life is going amazingly things can still jump up and bite you. Triggers are still just that triggers and there is no way you can face them until you are in a position to notice them.

Don't misunderstand me life is also unbelievably amazing. It is everything you want it to be and then some if you allow it. That doesn't mean you stop learning. It doesn't mean you don't make mistakes. It means that the better you are doing with your life the easier it is to notice when you hit a bump in the road.

Feeling guilty or beating yourself up is a waist of time. It gets nothing accomplished other than making you feel like shit.

So when you find yourself in a situation that you would give anything to not be effected but you are, remember, you are only human, and every action and reaction you have stems from a line of triggers. When you notice, let the emotion go and work on the trigger.

Because this weekend I found out that I am still that little girl who gets overwhelmed and doesn't always find herself feeling safe and secure in who she is, but I am also a strong confident woman who lived through the pain and can come around the other side knowing she can do anything.

There is positive in anything and everything if you just allow yourself the opportunity to see it, live it and feel it.

LOVE MY LIFE. and best of all, they aren't my friends so at the end of the day. What do I care who they think I am? I know who I am and so do you, never give up on your dreams or let go of the fight because you get thrown down a little. That makes the future so much more appealing...

love my life.

All the single ladies! Somethings are just too good not to share.

This is going to be very personal for me. But sometimes you just gotta do something different to get a different result...*wink*

I have shared many times, how lucky I am at meeting and marrying my twin soul. I do not mention it to brag, honest to god even though I would about him any day.. I actually share about him because I believe that if I can show you what I say works the average person will have more faith in their life and because they will see what I never did before I met him. That twin souls do exist.

Because I am so blessed to have a lot of listeners and fans...something I still cannot wrap my head around. I have the opportunity to share with all of you single ladies that an amazing man really does exist, and I can say for a fact more than one. As I personally know a few....hundred....*grin* I should probably get to the point.

I hear women say they are looking for their twin soul every day, but they are impossible to find. I personally believe that we are either not really looking for that or we have no idea what that looks like.

I know some of the most amazing men, but the two that are the most important other than my kids to me is without question my husband, whom I adore. and my best Male friend.

Right now I want to talk about my best Male friend....

I have discovered over the years that men are looking for the exact same thing women are. They want to be loved just as much, wanted and needed just as much.

My best male friend is no exception to this rule. However, like you ladies it is hard to find that woman that can rock his world. Let's face it, with a best friend like Kjarlune Rae, looking for what will do??? Not even an option....lol...and not only because I am bossy, *grin* but also because he witnesses a great relationship every day with his sister, that would be me, and his close friend and brother...that would be my husband.

Like most of you he is looking in all the wrong places. Or just not noticing in all the right places, either way it breaks my heart because I hear women say they want perfect and for the right woman he is, but hasn't found her yet.

I feel this overwhelming need and I hope he does not get mad at me, *gulp* to share about a man I know so well.

We want a man who is kind, loyal, understanding, and supportive and he is. He is also sensitive, and gives of himself without conditions. He is a half time/full time father and on many occasion I refer to him for advice on how to deal with one of my kids because he is a without words can describe dad.

We want a man who can stand his own and he does, but he also stands beside you with respect and adoration, all the while making sure you know how he feels about you at all times. This is one quality I discovered from Brian, my husband, is one of the most important things in a relationship. They need to stand by you no matter what, not always tell you that you are right, because we aren't but even when you are wrong, they support and acknowledge your efforts. He, my friend, never leaves any room for doubt about how he feels about something, always with the respect to review and try to put himself in someone Else's shoes. He takes the time to learn everything about you, what you require.

Just an example he was shopping with a friend of ours the other day and was in a plus size store. He finds beauty in all woman however he takes the time to take care of himself and so is attracted to fit women. Anyways he put himself in larger women's shoes in his head for a while and decided that plus size clothing stores just don't get it. What bigger women need to feel sexier and better. Hello, talk about a blow the mind kind of conversation.

We want a man who can stand out from a crowd. Not because everyone is staring but because he is confident enough to be noticed. I have watched him talk to almost every walk of life, every type of person, standing tall and giving respect. Always being noticed even when he didn't know it. He always makes sure the people around him feel wanted and important. But stands his ground and agrees to disagree if it is not what he believes. I have watched him when attracted to a woman always have some sort of contact when out in public. I don't know about you but when my husband has his hand on my lower back or always touches me I feel like the most important woman in the world. Every woman should need this and my friend does it without even thinking.

He was raised by a single mom, I don't know if that matters to anyone else, but I have never met a man raised by a single mom that does not have unbelievable respect for the female raise. An amazing mom if the truth be told and he makes a point of sharing that with her any chance he gets. Sounds like a mamas boy doesn't it? It isn't though, Just healthy respect and admiration for a woman who sacrificed to make him a better man.

We love a sense of humor, man he makes me kill myself laughing all the time. He is pretty good and joining in with Brian to drive me insane too but let's be honest without that we ladies would have nothing to bitch about on a ongoing basis. LOL...

We want a mans man, who is comfortable in their sexuality. He rides a bike.......looks like a man that should not be messed with, until he smiles then you just know he is a softy. No question he fits the rugged that most women want.

We want someone who can take care of things. He owns his own home, can fix anything and can cook and does all of his own cleaning. Never has he showed up to see me without a tea from Timmy's and a huge hug.

Parties, not too much, cuddles, gives attention, loves without condition, always makes me feel safe and like I am important. ( I am very lucky, an amazing husband and a killer best male friend.) and he is alone. I don't get it.

I could truthfully write about him for hours because I know him well. What I don't understand is how he can be single. It probably looks like I am writing a woman wanted add and in part I suppose I am, because I just want to see him happy. But this is also about finding a way to get all the single ladies out their out of the belief system that great guys do exist. I don't want to see him with just anyone, she has to be spectacular. But he is such a good guy and should not be single.

I want to see everyone in this world with that perfect person, that one that completes you and makes you feel like you could climb the biggest mountain and succeed.

He tries so hard to show me that he is fine, that he is happy and for the most part I believe he is, but sometimes, not having that someone is killer on him and all of you. Especially when you see people happy and in love. I give him so much credit, it would drive me crazy and for him it never does, or at least he never shows it.

The truth is their is more than one great man out looking for his twin, there is many. Ladies give these men a chance they just might own a white horse.

If you are an amazing, fit, woman who is interested in meeting a man I adore I am willing to share my friend. He truly is beyond words, send me a message, I might hook you up with my best friend. Oh and ladies, trust me on this, he does not need me to set him up...he is very good looking. I am married, not dead....lol...*grin* Even my husband would have to concede, he is a good looking man!

A ginger, Love you R, but a good looking man. lol...

To my friend, I love you, you mean the world to me, I thank god, and my soul family every day for us crossing paths. She is out there, I promise, and I won't rest either till you find her. That my friend is a wedding, I am most looking forward too. The thought of sharing you when I have been so lucky, doesn't thrill me, but I still have my husband so I will make it through. I sure hope he doesn't get mad at me, because I am attaching pictures!!!!! In the next couple of days....


hugs single laides, KJ

It is never too late for New Beginnings!

It doesn't matter who we are. How well we know ourselves. How in tune we might be. Falling into the trap of being stagnant is a problem for everyone.Staying motivated and being motivated can take a lot out of a person.

Life can and unfortunately does get in the way. I know for me one thing leads to another and before I know it, six months and not one chapter written. A year and nothing has changed.

It would surprise some of you, I am sure, to know that most of the time, knowing what you need to do, or want to do is not actually the problem. The problem is taking it from the thought in your head to the reality of your world.

Just like most of you I have used the excuse of being too busy. I say excuse because, and this is the same for all of you. It is an excuse.

Sure life is busy, absolutely our kids get in the way, our life takes over, work drains us, extra hours, blah blah blah, but here is the deal. If we have time to go on Facebook, watch a TV show, soak in a tub, wash our cars, etc, then we have time to get what we want done, done!

The trouble is falling into the trap of not having the energy. I am so tired, I am not sleeping properly, I am feeling so blah, I have a hard time getting out of bed. We all feel it and when we do, there goes any energy.

So it then falls into, I will do it tomorrow, I will get my finances figured out tomorrow, I will write that letter tomorrow, I will look for that tomorrow. Tomorrow never comes. You have Yesterday and it is already gone so what you did cannot be taken back, and Today, which is what matters. Say tomorrow all you want but when you open your eyes it will be today.

So, why have I not expanded the business more? Gotten the writing done, had that much needed talk with my 16 year old, moved into the acreage, re organized my world, had some quality time with my husband????? Because I kept waiting for tomorrow.

You know what I have to say to that? No More DAMMIT! I am not waiting another day to get started on what I have wanted to work on for forever and either should you.

This is what we don't understand, we think we are too tired, think we do not have time, frankly we think way to damn much. The truth is getting some things done, makes you feel better, not procrastinating gives you more energy, more energy gets things done faster, and before you know it you are exactly where you want to be.

I would love to tell you it is as easy as getting our lazy asses up and moving but if that was the case, well we wouldn't procrastinate....

It takes more than that but the good side is that it isn't painful.

For me, I needed to look at what was causing me to procrastinate and the truth was it was having a home office. I have to be honest and actually say that having a home office was a great excuse. I have no doubt fear played a pretty big role here.

For most of us it is because we are stuck, afraid, need some push.

The reality is I have nothing to fear, and if I just concentrate on what I am wanting to do and not on the end result it can happen without me even registering it. Once things are where they are supposed to be well, we are human and have this great ability to adapt. SO I will adapt and so will you.

If we drop things down to the simple accomplishment of it then we can get it done.

So instead of dwelling and dealing in the fear I went with what I could handle. The home office.

Simple really, I moved my office. Moved my computer, all of my files, all of my working on projects.

As it turns out a persons energy really does start to get charged up when you make a change. My to do list has already dwindled, accomplishments are being made and I am feeling Fan-freaking-tastic.

Change your environment. If you have everything locked up in a room of the house you can avoid, move it to your kitchen table. It will drive you crazy and you will have to get it done. If you cannot get motivated at home, go find a great coffee shop or escape to get it done. No more excuses.

If you are feeling frumpy and not getting anything done, go change your hair, buy a new outfit and get on with it. You are your own worst enemy.

I have been in my new office since Friday, and this is what I have done. Affirmations DONE. Wall sense with KJ, created and DONE. Lip sense with KJ, created and DONE! Vlogging almost set up and done. Book, two new chapters DONE! Energy? OMG you have no idea, I am up in the morning, the MORNING??? if you knew me you would know the morning, anytime in the morning, is for sleeping. Or at least it was. The best part about all of this. My kids and my husband have seen me more. I have been able to have two birthday get tog ethers, nothing has suffered and everyone around me has gained.

The first trick is to change up the environment that has you in a slump, the second trick, no more excuses. Third get excited, fourth, do not even think about the fears, you will adapt. Five, take a look around because you will be happier and calmer.

It is never to late to start over, never to late to redo things, never too late to want more, never to late to make things happen. It is Never To Late for A New Beginning.


Love my life. Love yours.
KJ

What more can we do!

I hear everywhere. I don’t know if I believe in a soul family. I am not sure if there is something bigger out there than me. How do I know they will look after me?
What if they don’t give me what I ask? What if they listen to everyone but me? How do I know they are listening? What do I ask for? Can I count on them? Man I could list a thousand of questions I am asked on an ongoing basis, all with the intent of looking for proof that there is something bigger out there than us and its job is to look after us.

"I will believe it when I see it." That is one of my favourites.

Every day we do things in our lives. Say things are a certain way and all without seeing proof of it, but the one thing that is your constant, The Universe. Well now let’s sit down and show me some proof.

Picture if you will, your boss at work coming in every afternoon and saying. I don’t believe you have done anything today. Prove it!

Oh sure you say you have, and I know we say we should have faith that you are doing your job. But frankly I don’t know you. I don’t sit with you every moment of your day but I sign your pay check, so show me what you have done. Account every moment of your day for me and I will decide if you are worth believing in or not!

How long would you want to work there...?

Now picture this. Your parents questioning everything you say. Everything you do, every second of every day. Whenever you tell them what you have accomplished, they say prove it. Or better yet your partner in life. Never believing where you have been, what you have been doing or who you have been doing it with.

Would these relationships last long?....I THINK NOT!

I can say that with some conviction because I work in the world where I hear these things all the time.

I see the jobs go, the relationships fail, the families torn apart on an ongoing basis. So I am confident in my understanding that not many of us would tolerate this for an extended period of time.

Well the Universe, souls past before us, our guides are somewhat feeling the same way.

I know as a Clairvoyant I get tired of having to prove myself every step of the way, and I also know that because of my "chosen" profession it comes with the territory. Your guides know this too.

However, here is what is getting them in an uproar!

You know that you need air to breathe. Food to eat. Clothes to wear (outside of a nudist colony), money to pay the bills. You know that you require these things because you have been taught that you need them.
I know, here is a shocker.

There are people out there that do not eat, live in a bubble, don’t live on money etc. Not many I will give you but still. You at some point early on and through your growing up years where shown and told what all of this was.

We believe things without proof all of the time.

A guy dose not call a girl back for weeks and friends convince said girl that he is attracted to her but scared of commitment and she believes it.

Your boss tells you it is not you there are budget cuts and you believe it. You breathe every few seconds yet cannot see the air you are breathing.. You buy a drink at the bar and believe it is not watered down. You buy a car that will get 500 klcks to a tank and you believe it because the salesman said so.

Teacher tells you that your child has learning issues and you believe it because the teacher knows best. Again I could give a thousand things you believe without seeing proof, but the Universe; the people you have loved and lost want to take care of you. Do take care of you every moment of your life and you need to see it before you can believe it?.......Here is there question for you....what the H E double hockey sticks? Actually they are saying What the Fuck?...but the other one sounded better.

You meet a stranger and fall in love where does that come from....?
You get a job after an interview you think went poorly..?.just a run of luck...?
You get approved for a house you don’t think you can approve but absolutely love. Do you think the broker thought you were cute...?

Somehow there is always money when truly needed. You think of someone and the phone rings it is them...A baby grows in someone’s tummy and comes out perfect...You witness and accident right in front of you but you were not involved.... A parent cannot afford a surgery to save their child’s life and the money gets donated....Miracles happen around you every day and yet we wonder if those people we loved and loss are taking care of us.....???

This is what guides have to say.....

"We watch over you every second of every day. Take care of you and keep you from falling so far you can’t get up. We share with you all of the knowledge we have learnt. We keep you company when you are alone. We give you good dreams, and because you can’t see us. You don’t believe in us..."

"We give you signs to show you the right way, and you ignore it. Granted because you say it isn’t obvious enough...will a brick work? We are blamed when you loose control. You should have never taken the control in the first place. If you would have trusted us the lessons would not have been necessary. “

“Someone’s time was up and they came home to us and we are to blame. We didn’t write the contract. We didn’t make the choices. You want to do things your way then you want to blame us when you make the wrong decisions.”

“What more do we have to do for you to know we are hear? What more do we have to show you to know we will take care of you? What more can we do before you believe in us? How much more can we show that we are around? What do you want from us that we do not already give?”

“Life is not about us proving we are around. You have the choice to listen and follow or not believe and struggle. We will not judge you or stop caring because you don’t feel you need us, want us or believe in us. It is okay to be scared of us even though we will never hurt you. But stop using us as your scape goat. We are here.

We are watching. We are helping and you have to make a choice. If you believe you will see, not the other way around. Watch and listen and life will get easier.

Notice the signs and trust we are around and you will never feel along again. Accept our help, without blaming us and we will give more. Listen and we will speak. Hope and we will fulfill. Believe and you will grow.

If you were the ones past on and we were there would you not want us to believe in you? Trust you? Have faith in you? Believe in us and save your world. Religion is preached every day and followers are everywhere, there is no proof, only what you hold in your heart. We are in your heart. We are in your souls and we share your minds.

Love us as we love you and together we will prosper. We are not to blame we are to correct. We are not to hurt we are to give balance. We your loved ones who you miss, who you wish were still alive are still here. You just can’t see us, but give us a fair chance and you will feel us.”


I know one thing for absolute guarantee. I would not be here today if it wasn’t for being watched over. I have been beaten, alone, without, scared, lost, confused, torn, bullied, ridiculed, tortured, abandoned and hurt, no more or less than most but traumatized just the same. If it wasn’t for my soul family I would not be here. They love you, all of you. They are watching and they are here. All you have to do is stop fearing them and start rejoicing that you are not alone. Try something new. Live like you can do anything. Believe in what you cannot see. Hope and dream. Love without reason. Smile because you can and you will see too that you would not be here without them either.

I am not a preacher, nor a teacher. I am a survivor and without my soul family I would be nothing.

Love your life, it is yours the good the bad and the crazy. Try something new the worse thing to happen is it won’t work, but you will end up happier with the experience. Take a chance on something and reap the reward. The proof is around you every where.

So bodes the question. What more do they have to do in order for you to believe they are here and they will help you???????? L M L!

There is more to a reading than meets the eye!

I am often asked why does someone go see a Psychic and to be honest the answer varies. Some just for a sense of relief. Some to gain some understanding. The odd one wants to hear what they want will happen. For the most part though just some hope and direction.

I am mot going to lie to you. I don't go to many psychics. Not because I don't want the help but because the psychic/healing world is a tuff nut to crack. You think competition in the workplace is hard in the real world? It hasn't got anything on the ego of the Meta physicals.

I am the best, No I am. You don't know how to read, I know how to read. Whatever psychic told you that is a quack. "Kjarlune Rae? Please she doesn't know shit!" I have heard and seen in all in the world I work very hard to not associate in.

I would love to tell you that we are all in this for the love of it, the shear joy of helping people. I would love to tell you that we all have the best intentions. That we all take so much pride in our jobs that we think of you before anything else. I would love to tell you this world is full of Rainbows and butterflies but alas, I would be lying.

Ego is a terrible thing. No matter who you are or what you do.
The truth is that a psychic or healer has the same chances of saving the world as a Dr. has of never seeing a patient die.

Psychics and Healers whether you believe in them or not should be held at a higher level of accountability. We are human yes, but like a Dr. you should be able to count on us. Depend on us to at least do our best. At least give our all.

Psychics and Healers are held to a higher level of accountability by the Universe. What we say and what we do is a measure on how our life goes. No one can guarantee you that what they say is 100% right but if you have found a psychic or healer that you want to check out make sure they live by AND IT HARM NONE!

Our job in the Metaphysical Holistic world is to support, understand and love un- conditionally. No matter who you are or where you come from. We are your safe zone. Or at least we better be.

A reading is more than what does your future hold. It is a place where you can gain answers to your life`s problem. A solution for what you keep tripping over. It is not about Ego or about being right. It is about being helpful. Whether it is that kick in the ass you desperately need but no one else will give,or that new perspective that makes every block of your life fall into place.

A reading is about finding solutions and road maps to get you on your chosen or contracted road. It is up to you what you will do with the information once you get it but we are the front line. If our ego, and opinions get in the way then we are leading you down a garden path and that is punishable by The Universe and Fate.

You are entitled to ask questions about your psychic or healers life because if they are living on the right side of The Universe, the blessings are every where around them.

What we do we get back is the most important thing to remember when seeing a healer. We are not witches, nor god. We cannot force or demand, we can only share. The life your psychic or healer has is a gift from their clients. Whether it be a happy home or money in the bank they didn`t get it alone. You the ones who trust us supplied and for that we should always hold onto humility and thankfulness.

A reading or healing can and will change your life if you and your healer allow it. We share everything that we are and support and understand you in every way that you don`t. The future cannot exist without some faith and belief and neither can we.

We take your life in our hands whether you realize it or not. We are the holders of answers if we are open enough to receive them. Not everyone is great with numbers, not everyone can help the elderly die and not everyone can heal and read but we are all born with gifts. All born with a purpose to full fill and a life contract to complete.

You don`t buy a car without checking into it. Don`t pick a healer or psychic without some knowledge because there is more to a reading or healing than meets the eye. Life change and life`s blessings are around us everywhere. If you allow it.

Thank you. Thank you for my life, thank you for your trust. Thank you for your faith. Please never question. Whether I know you or I don`t I love you too.

Become your OWN LIFE DESIGER!

We all have dreams. We all have wants and we all have needs. It is easy to forget what our goals are and turn them into a day dream. Only to turn them into our never happening instead of look what I have done.

Accomplishment and making things happen is the purpose of life. Learn our lessons get past them and create an amazing life is the ultimate goal. When our head gets in the way life does not go according to plan.

Vision boards are a amazing way to keep the goals in focus but we either never do them, or hide them. Energy is what makes things happen and you should be proud and want to share every goal or desire you have.

So let’s change the cycle of dreaming and not following through.

A client came in today with the goal of opening her own business, like the rest of us, bills, kids and life get in the way. Other priorities hit and other needs take over.

I suggested to her and now suggest it to all of you, Create a 3d vision board or many, one for each big goal.

For her it is create the coffee shop on paper, color pain swatches, design ideas, fabric swatches for the chairs. Create the vision. Then put in a shadow box and display it! Share it with the world who walks through your house.

Not only a goal but a gorgeous unique piece of ART! Be proud of what you want. Share who you are. Have it out in the open, Become the artist of your life, make your home your temple of desires, share because it is who you are and you will never forget.

If you never forget you will create! It is that simple. What starts as a shadow box becomes reality! GUARANTEED!

LML

Become your own personal life DESIGNER! Get creative, and stop saying you can’t!

Never to late!

Life has a tendency of getting in the way, or taking off into a direction you didn’t expect. Like having kids and not being able to fulfill your life long career goals because the food on the table became the priority.

Or taking on the good job and buying a home, meeting someone and making house instead of traveling the world and seeing what awaits you. No matter what the reason, or what the excuse it is not uncommon to feel like your life has slipped away without you reaching the big goal, accomplishing the big dream.

It is not unnatural to fall into the comfort zone of your life, whether happy or not, excited or not, what you want or not.

It is however your choice of whether you will grow old and be happy with the twists and winding road you have followed, or whether you will do what has to be done till the family can tend to themselves, and it is your turn.

It is never too late to go after a dream, no matter what your life has been or what trials you have had to face..

Stop blaming the world and start living.

Go back to school if that is the dream, borrow, or beg for the money it doesn’t matter make it happen.

Sell the house and travel the world, it is one year of your life you will never forget.

It is never to late to follow a dream, never to late to make it your life!

Truth/Myth of the Psychic

Lack of knowledge leaves us unarmed. The sad truth to this statement is that we have been told or shown that so many things are a certain way that we have come to believe it, without merit or confirmation.

Coming from a religious background, or at least one when I was with my other family on summer holidays even I was left with a bitter taste in my mouth for psychics. I was raised with a belief system that left me with the understanding that a psychic is a fortune teller and that is a sin.

Not to mention and this might come as a surprise to some, but even someone as out there like myself could not possibly wrap my head around laying down some cards, or swirling your hand around a crystal ball like the movies, could come anywhere close to being legitimate. The truth is I still don’t believe that illusion is real.

The reality is that the “version” of what a “psychic” has been portrayed to be is totally and completely a load of crap and is not real. Of course that might explain why so many people try to bunk it.

The sad truth however is that being perceptive, being able to see things in a different light, being able to feel everything another person is feeling is very much a possibility and reality.

Anyone who has ever been in a relationship or had a family and knew when someone was coming home because they could feel them, or knew when they were unhappy or mad, or sad or confused without them saying a word can testify that it is a possibility. Seeing as how every one of you reading this have had those feelings once or twice in your life, I would have to say you personally can testify that it makes sense, if you think about it you could say it is a probability.

Think about this, if there is a remote possibility that God exists. That there is something past dying. That you do not just turn to dust and evaporate, with no reason for your existence at all. Then how does it not make sense that there are people that can feel, understand and communicate with what many would class as heaven.

Now take that a step further for just a moment with me, if there is more out there and that more is not restricted by their bodies, if the theory is correct that there is life after death, no more personal, If you had life after death, would you want to stay mute for all eternity? Have no one hear what you know? Share with no one your understandings from there? Not help the man kind you left?

Look at natural disaster; it is our nature, our need to help strangers we don’t know here on earth, if you were passed on would you not want to communicate with those you love? Help any way you can?

Not many people are going to say no here.

There are masterminds through out our entire history. Brilliant off the chart people with ideas that have revolutionized our world and it is a hard stretch to believe that a person’s brain has the ability to expand past the typical limits and find answers we are searching for?

See the problem is not whether it is possible, we all know or would have to come the conclusion that it is. The problem is just like Newton was classed as crazy, people have created a fictitious knowledge base about what a “psychic” is and what they can do.

It really is the movies when a gypsy runs her hands over the crystal ball and oooooooooooo tells you your future. It really is not true that we are witches and can cast a spell on you and it is not possible to MAKE things happen for someone else.

That is not a “psychic” and it is time to debunk the myths because knowledge is freedom.

Like any other type of work in this world there truly is phoney people trying to make a buck off of someone else’s needs. That cannot be surprising, financial institutions make money off of your hard work. Not a slam just reality. There are criminals everywhere, why wouldn’t there be fake psychics?

Just like it is not true that every Native American are alcoholics, not every psychic is a fraud and just like Native Americans get a bad wrap for the ones who don’t care and take advantage so do the real psychics.

Anyone can learn to become more aware, to broaden their mind capability just like believe it or not everyone with the same training can sing, sure for some it is easier than others.

The truth is that a “psychic” no matter what the form, Clairvoyant, Empathic, reader, seer, whatever starts from a place of unconditional love. We start with a sense of caring that reaches beyond, color, size, looks, surface.

When you truly care about someone you can easily see past the “exterior” what is shown and can see what you know. The real person, the inside workings, that make them who they are.

If you are not emotionally involved with that person, and this is for the record where the “psychic” part comes in, then it is not complicated to see where their road is headed.

Just like if you are not emotionally involved with the loved one who is sitting in heaven it is easier to communicate with them. There is no fear, love, cynicism, emotion that gets in the way of being able to hear them.

Have you not ever been somewhere and felt like you were not alone? Or had a feeling you should call someone or say something, maybe do something. We all do it, but unlike when you are involved a “psychic” or what I prefer “intuitive” does not have the fear to get in the way.

Don’t fool yourself, I cannot tell my future. I am no different than you I can hardly tell my present and my past hurts just as much as some of yours. An Intuitive is no different than anyone else.

When you get past the barrier of the emotion, it is easier to create a plan, find a solution and guide someone into a direction. “Psychic” is simply another form of how our mind works. Like everything else there is a little more to it but that is where people get the most lost.

It is time to break through the scepticism, time to gain the understanding because psychics are not going away. Our children are being born more intuitive. Our world needs help and being able to communicate with the people of our past will help us!

Isn’t that everyone is looking for? A little help.

The reason people go to us is not so that we can brain wash them, it is so we can help. Life takes over and as most know can get a little out of hand. You can go see a therapist and work through it on your own after years and years or you can go see someone that can get through the crap and give you the tools you need to get going, faster, with less pain and less confusion.

Psychics can be wrong, we are only human, but when you don’t follow the advice how can you get the result? Just like loosing weight there is NO MAGICK PILL!! Only tools, and with the right advice the tools are easy to use! A psychic simply makes it make sense!

There you have it, the truth about psychics, at least the easiest way to understand them. If you cannot wrap your mind around a mathematician or a scientist you are never going to fully wrap your mind around the brains potential.

It’s up to you what you believe. I cannot convince you nor sway you, all I can say is I am a “psychic” and I can guarantee there is nothing freaky or godly or evil about me or anyone else that genuinely cares enough to look into your future.

Like a dear friend of mine wrote : KJ is a friend to some, confidant to most and counsellor to others. But she's real, and has her own life to live.

Psychics/Clairvoyants/readers WHATEVER, is real, it is the gypsy costumes, the “ I channel arc angel Michael” “oooo I can save your life” “mystical misunderstandings” that is a load of crap! In my opinion…

Ring around the Rosy

Ring around the rosy,
Pocket full of posy,
Husha, husha,
We all fall down.

Even our childhood games mimic where we are headed in life.

Cycles that continually repeat themselves. Growing up we have been taught to not stop, push ahead and accomplish your goals, what has come of this is the cycle.

Continually doing the same thing, hoping, no not even hoping worse than that, EXPECTING a different result.

Here is the thing. If you go around in circles, attracting yourself to the same thing/or same type of people just with different names, then even the childhood rhyme tells you that you are going to fall down!

We have the ability to try, something we are born with, but we must create the ability inside ourselves to walk away from what doesn’t work.

If you don’t then each time you go around in the circle the fall gets harder and more painful.

The secret is to try everything once, only hold onto what works. Let go of what doesn’t, and enjoy the road you have taken to get there.

Simple really, break the cycle, stop running around in circles, take the time to mentally digest what you have tried and what you have succeeded.

Give yourself and those around you the benefit of the doubt. Stupidity only comes into play when you continue doing the same thing. Stop the beat up and start the change!

It takes two to make a thing go right!

We are all looking for that perfect partner. That one person who can show us what love is all about. The one you will always count on. Someone to share your bed and life with. Yet nothing ever seems to be good enough.

They work too much. Don't care enough about me. Don't understand where I am coming from. After 19 years of answering relationship questions in my office I could and am writing books all about it.

Here is the deal. Nothing is perfect if you don't allow it to be. If we have curly hair we want straight. Long want short. brown eyes want blue eyes. Single want a relationship. Married and no not always but wish you had other choices.

Whatever happened to loving the life your in? Making a relationship work because you love them. Having the love of your life is not like buying a car. You don't trade it in when too many miles get put on. As a matter of fact, the more miles, the more years, the better the relationship should be!

It is a choice to be unhappy when in love. It is a choice to not communicate the way you should. To let your love life become hallway sex, looking at each other saying Fuck You! Everything in our life is a choice and your relationship is no different.

Communication is the key! Most of us say we have that. But be honest how many of us think our partner should just know what is wrong. What is bothering us. What we need! Hello I am a clairvoyant and I still cannot read my husbands mind. Separate note: thank god. Like I can handle what is my head never name his.

Your partner cannot read your mind and if you need something or are feeling something for the love of god SPIT IT OUT! Tell them. Ask them. Give what you need to them so they can understand how good it feels to get it.

Don't expect that they won't get it, because your ex didn't, or because they didn't before. If they are not listening try a different way. What do you have to loose other than less lawyer bills?

Remember that they are their own person, with their own beliefs, their own dysfunctional upbringing and their own baggage. You have it too, and you want to be accepted for who you are so accept them!

Life is not nearly as complicated as we make it. Have some faith. They are not your past they are your present and your future. Have faith in them, love them through the good the bad and the ugly.

We get what we give. If we try to control everything it won't work. Assume they will just get it? they won't.

I say give some love to get some love, and back to the hallway sex. The only time hallways sex should be allowed is if your partner is ripping your clothes off and throwing you against the wall for traction. It takes less energy to make love than to fight. Less frustration to try to understand than to think you are always right.

If you don't trust them you shouldn't be with them. If you don't love them then the truth is you never really did! Life is simple, we make it complicated.

love and light

Kjarlune